The Defining Moment

striving for self-actualization. People can often be led down the wrong path to self-actualization, according to Rogers, until they begin to recognize the differences between their perception of self and their actual experience. In Tommy Callahan’s case, he decided to see a counselor when he discovered that there was an incongruity between what Rogers would call his ideal self, what he is working on becoming, and his real self, what he is deep down. Rogers defined the ideal self as what someone is trying to be in that moment. Tommy Callahan was currently on a sales trip trying to fill his father’s shoes as president of the family company. This is a role he was expected to fill his entire life and Tommy’s ideal self. The concept of the real self in Rogerian therapy is what the person truly is. People find that through self-actualization. Tommy had a moment and decided to seek a counselor when he spoke aloud to Richard and said, “I am not my Dad.” This was the defining moment of Tommy’s identification of the gap between Tommy’s two selves. The overall process that Carl Rogers used and had in mind for person-centered counseling may be the most effective for Tommy to close that gap between selves and reach self-actualization. Carl Rogers explained that before entering into person-centered counseling, a few conditions must be met for the relationship to work and the counseling to strengthen the client. Some of these conditions are that the client, Tommy, must be unsatisfied with…

wheels eventually moving. After an hour of shouting, and chaos on the bus we finally arrived. The sign above the entrance towered above the fence - gleaming in the sun, reading “Welcome”. We browsed the mesmerising areas of the park. Nothing was too interesting, however the atmosphere was brilliant. The birds chirped, and the smell of the outdoors was excellent. The emerald green grass blades moved graciously in response to the wind, and the flowers painted a mural. It was lunch- time by now,…

Why did this all of this have to happen so soon? I was only 6 when my brother passed away. I was young at the time, so I didn't really know much of what was happening. My mom and dad were the ones who were definitely more effected by this than I was, because they witnessed it themselves. So for this to happen, it changed them. I was sitting on the couch watching Camp Lazlo with my sister, when both my parents started screaming. They were running to the home phone with my brother in my Dad's…

Napoleon Bonaparte said, “A good leader deals hope. Ralph has had many major defining moments throughout the book such as him blowing the conch, becoming leader, and hitting the boar with the spear. Firstly, Ralph blowing the conch was a defining moment or him. A line that represents this moment, “A harsh deep note boomed under the palms spread through the intricacies of the forest” (Golding 17). This moment gave an immediate impression of a leader to the tribe as well as it helped him get the…

My defining moment was probably one of the many times I had entertained the idea of falling in love. The thought of expressing it, turned it into a whole different story. What I thought could happen, the difference I could make with a glance, a smile, with just being alive. Truthfully, I have never been the most emotional person. Being raised in a family where the only two emotions were happy and mad, I have always viewed all other emotions as a sign of weakness. This is why mundane experiences…

Defining Moments in Your Life A defining moment is something that has changed your life in a positive or negative way, and it is part of who you are today. Three defining moments that changed my life are when my brothers were born, my anniversary with my friends, and the day I started high school. The first defining moment in my life was when my brothers were born. Before they were born, I remember feeling lonely at home and I used to cry a lot when I left my cousins house I didn’t have anyone…

Throughout my life I’ve been faced with a multitude of different challenges, which have through time molded me into the person I am today. Without these defining moments in my life I am certain that I would not be the same person writing this essay today. Out of all that I have experienced I find my parent’s divorce to be the most defining. It’s one of those things that you’ll remember distinctly for the rest of your life. It is definitely not the worst I’ve been through but it is definitely the…

Canada has had many defining moments through out the 20th century. These moments have shaped Canada the way it is today. More specifically, in the 20th century, Canada has experienced a great deal of economic growth. The three most defining economic moments Canada had experienced were immigrants coming to Canada, the building of industries, and manufacturers. To begin with the first defining moment in Canadian history, was the large amount of people coming to Canada. In the late 19th and…

Both my parents always wanted me to become a psychiatrist or a lawyer someday. They both believed I would have been a great candidate for those careers. In reality they couldn’t have been more wrong. Those careers never really appealed to me. There’s always a defining moment that occurs in your life when you know you were meant to take a certain path in life. I was only fourteen years old when that major moment occurred to me. After that I knew the career path I wanted to take and I haven’t…

Jeffrey Archer once said “There are defining moments in one’s life when you learn about yourself, and you deposit that knowledge in the experience account, so you draw on it at some later date.” The real kicker about this is you never know what those defining moments are until much later. Then when you draw on those moments they become worthwhile as much as they might have honestly sucked at the time. I number these defining moments with the brightly colored numbered moving stickers the movers…