The Influence Of Parenting

The memories of our childhood might not be as clear as water, but are crucial to our being, since to know who we are today as an individual, we need to learn about the person that we have been in the past. My life was influenced by a very special person, that even though she is not related to me by blood, in my heart she occupies the space of a mother. Her name is Maritza, or how I liked to call her Tia. She was a key person in my life, and the one that would spend the most time with me. As a result of, she has the most knowledge on how I socially developed, so I chose to talk to her about my childhood experiences. Everyone has their own way of approaching the world, and we all have a different temperament that shape the way in which we experience …show more content…
They vary from person to person, and in order to raise me, the style of parenting that was used was authoritative. My Tia was very warm, and supportive, but she had clear rules that I had to follow. I can remember that when I wouldn’t want to take a bath, she would sit down next to me and calmly reason with me why I should take a bath, instead of screaming or demanding to do so. By doing this, she enforced her standards of conduct and behavior, but at the same time she gave me the chance to have some autonomy and helped me understand why it is important to take a shower and didn’t use a more rigid approach. This kind of parenting style of hers has not changed at all over time. Now, as she talks to and tries to teach me how to act as a grown up, she still enforces standard such as what is a reasonable time to get home, or what places I can go to, but she does this by talking and communicating instead of demanding. She approaches all situations like this and has never replaced her parenting style with another based on the situation. Even when I skipped school for the fists time, since she had created such a good communicating and a positive atmosphere, I ran to her and revealed what I had just done. In this situation, she explained to me why what I had just done was wrong and the negative consequences of my act, then she took back me to school and …show more content…
My way of acting towards the world, how I was raised, and how I behave with those that are close to me, all have put a grain of salt to shape me into who I am today. I believe that even though I was born with certain characteristics of my behavior, that some aspects of my social development were affected by how I was treated and nurtured as a child. It is true that we all have some traits that are prearranged by our genes, such as how I am a slow-to-warm-up person, but we can still choose who we want to be such as how I developed a relationship with my caregiver or how I reacted to a hard situation like leaving my country. By better understanding how and why we change and grow, we can use this information to know who we are as a person and live to our fullest