When a child feels as if he or she can trust the parent, that child is less likely engage is secretive behavior that includes hiding and withholding information. Not engaging in these behaviors creates better trust between the child and parent and can potentially prevent the breaking of rules. Also, the child of the Authoritative parent understands that when the rules are broken, there is some consequence for doing so.
Another beneficial component of the Authoritative parenting style is that it is not overbearing like the Authoritarian style. Authoritative parents regularly listen to their child, which allows them to grow independently. This parent also places limits, consequences, and expectations on their children's behavior. The child of the Authoritative parent understands the consequences for not meeting the expectations. This helps to maintain an open and trusting relationship with the …show more content…
These parents issue commands with little explanation. In contrast, those parents with an Authoritative style do reason with their children. For example, in Amy Chuy's opinion essay, Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior, she explains her parenting technique and explains why it is superior. Her parenting methods best fit with the Authoritarian style. She tells how she expects perfection from her kids and sometimes even the best from her children is not enough. Chuy continues that Chinese parents typically raise their children to play an instrument, and the instrument of choice is either the piano or violin, no other instrument is even allowed to be considered. She writes that her daughter is learning to play a difficult piece on the piano, but struggles tremendously on a certain part of the song in which her fingers cannot reach the required tempo. It is very frustrating for her, and her daughter wants to stop and give up on learning the piano. In response, Chuy threatens her daughter with no lunch, no dinner, and no Christmas or Hanukkah presents. She even goes to the extent of saying no birthday parties for two, three, or four years until she gets back to the piano and plays it not only correctly, but perfectly (par.23). Chuy also explains that she believes "nothing is fun until you're good at it” (par.5). With this kind of parenting, the child has little voice and even less control. In this example, the child