The Importance Of Parenting

Register to read the introduction… You cannot dive into this kind of relationship expecting things to automatically go your way. Blended families take time; be realistic, it takes kids time to adjust to the new spouse, sometimes even years. Kids feel as though they have to be loyal to their biological parents. A stepparent should remember they are not in this relationship to replace the natural parent. Patience is an important factor while letting the kids adjust this new situation. I married four years ago; this being my first marriage. My spouse had been married before and has a son from his previous marriage, but prior to that he had three other kids before that relationship, so I consider my situation to be unique. I thought once I married this would be easy to adjust to the new changes but I have to be one to admit even I struggle with how to handle being a stepparent sometimes. I was one of those people that thought everything would work out the way I like, but I sure had a lot to …show more content…
Both parents have to realize that what ever dislikes or disagreements they had while they were married, must be put to the side after the divorce because their focus should go toward the emotions of the child(ren). It is important for natural parents to be cordial and respect each others position as a parent; this is essential especially if there is joint custody or visitation. Parents should not fight with one another especially in front of the children. If both parents are constantly fighting, then they will never be able to care for the child together and it puts the child in an awkward position and force the child to have resentment towards one parent. Therefore whoever has full custody should never degrade the other parent to the child or to anyone in front of the child. Remember the child loves both parents and the divorce is not their …show more content…
I have been married for four years now and being a stepparent still doesn’t come easy for me. My situation is unique; I have four step children all of whom live in Tennessee. The Children have always come down for the summer, and some holidays. I was one that thought I could come into the family and immediately blend. When you hear it takes time it does. The older three kids have not been raised to what I would consider my standards, so this was a problem for me. Instead of coinciding with my husband on a solution, I found I was isolating myself from the situation, which only contributes to more problems. The only way to come to an understanding was to interact with the kids, instead of isolating yourself from the problem. I realize this was an act of selfishness. I was so worried about my own lifestyle; I didn’t realize this behavior hurt him also. I thought since he was the natural parent, he approved everything I believe to be wrong, and I was afraid of expressing my feelings thinking it would hurt his, when all along he wanted that, so we could come to an agreement on how our household should be ran. This is why you must communicate and have patience in order to help the family