The process of a marriage or divorce will never be easily explained. How do these people make a marriage work, how have they been successful or failed? Marriage has been studied over the years and these two authors give insight into how it has changed. Stephanie Coontz, author of “Origins of Modern Divorce'', writes about how marriage has changed in history. She talks about how marriage and divorce have changed, why people married, and why they divorced.…
A marriage isn’t just about romance, it is about commitment to their significant other. In Avia Patz’s article, “Will Your Marriage Last?”, she talks about the different circumstances that determines if a marriage will last. Through the research of Huston, Patz claims that in order to conclude if a marriage will last, someone must observe the roots of the relationship. Huston started his research by looking at two marriages, a failed Marraige and successful marriage. The first marriage he studied, was the story of Peter and Suzie, a failed marriage.…
Janie’s Husbands’ Behavior and its Effect on Her Marriages What is it that allows success in a marriage? Can the effort of one person hold a marriage together? This is not the case; rather, it takes love and hard work from both parties to produce a coherent relationship. In Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston, the behaviors of Logan, Jody, and Tea Cake played a huge role in the level of success of each of their marriages to Janie.…
Biographical Sketch Dr. Jeffrey A. Kottler is an author, professor, speaker and workshop presenter with more than 80 best-selling nonfiction books that deal with a wide range of subjects. Some of these subjects include personal development, group leadership, professional development of psychotherapists and teachers, social justice, true crime, and a variety of contemporary issues related to helping and healing, truth and lies, creativity, transformative travel, and stress management. A professor of counseling at California State University, Fullerton and President of Empower Nepali Girls, an organization that provides scholarships for at-risk children in Nepal, Dr. Kottler has been considered as one of the foremost authorities and prolific…
In fact, marital quarrels often lead to degenerative spirals, mental health distresses, such as anxiety, depression, or stress. Although Couples Retreat approaches marriage from a comical standpoint, it also provides glimpses on how to address marital issues by integrating the idea of a marriage retreat as an alternative and less orthodox conduit to help couples on the verge of divorce. Various scenes when the couples have to meet with a professional counselor represents the alternative that many marriages have, and it is to seek counseling help. Nowadays, couples retreat aims to work on communication issues among couples that are impeding them to reach one another. Couple retreats also provide a safe haven environment where they can focus entirely on working on the improvement of their relationships.…
Travis Bever September 15, 2017 Analysis Essay Final Draft The article, Three Reasons Not to Make This January Your Divorce Month by W. Bradford Wilcox and Samuel Sturgeon, emphasizes the importance of considering all the possible outcomes that stem from a divorce when determining if you should end your low conflict marriage. The article appears in the National Review journal and considers the negative correlation that a divorce has on the children involved, the possibility of the marriage becoming joyful again, and the husband and wife’s long term financial welfare. The strength of the argument, put forth by W. Bradford Wilcox and Samuel Sturgeon, is effected by the specificity of the argument claim, the credibility of the authors, the source…
Happy homemakers were happy in shows and posters, but there was a curtain that shielded the public from the private sphere of marriage, but now, we have a very open window to the hard times of a marriage. Perhaps that is why marriage is not expected to be a long term contract anymore. We like to talk about how marriage has improved since the age of the happy housewife, but has marriage changed for the better all around? perhaps we have lost some values in marriage, and the value of a promise, commitment and the saying “ for better or for worse” has lost some force in the last 50…
According to Gottman (1999), "Current estimates of the chances of first marriages in the U.S. ending in divorce (within a 40-year period) range between 50% and 67%" (p. 3). Some couples seek marital therapy before they get to that point. Jake and Ann are a couple that did just that. They felt that their marriage was in trouble and decided to get professional help in hopes of improving their marriage. The case of Jake and Ann is examined in this paper, including the therapist's theoretical framework, case history, an in-depth look at three particularly significant therapy sessions, and results of the therapy and plans for future sessions.…
Unlike Gottman, earlier socialist and psychologist focused on mate selection; the personality of who marries who, where and whether an individual flourishes or not. Gottman looked at the bigger picture, what ways to make the relationship thrive. When taking a look at “The Love Lab,” and comparing Nathan Ackerman, a psychologist for both family and couple therapy, he took a shift towards aiming family therapy in order to create clinical approaches to clinical problems. As family and couple therapy psychologist would put it, "two neurotics can be happily married,” (Ackerman, 1982). In the end, whether we believe or follow Gottmans study or not, we must understand there is so much more to making a relationship.…
Marriage Counsel: Advice from Dr.Gottman Many people attempt to discover questions concerning what happen to my marriage, can corrosive patterns in a marriage be avoided, and what tips will prompt a successful marriage. Dr. John Gottman has answers for either of those questions. According to Santrock, Gottman, “Useses many methods to analyze what makes marriages work.”…
I believe that out of the three dimensions of sexuality the video “What you don’t know about marriage” addresses the psychological dimension. The video describes aspects, feelings, and experiences that we may feel that contribute to the success and failure of marriages. In the video Jenna McCarthy describes how certain behaviors and actions, such as men doing household chores, contribute to the wives becoming more attracted to their husbands, creating a chain reaction. Where the husband attracts the wife, the wife is more open to providing more sex, more sex satisfies the husband and is genuinely nicer and appreciative-like towards the wife, the wife is happy towards the attitude, and the relationship all together sustains to be a happier…
Poetry seeks to convey a message, whether direct or indirect. As the audience, it’s our job to dissect the meaning in order to fully uncover the emotions that the poem is trying to express. As with all poetry, the poem “The Ache of Marriage” by Denise Levertov, found on page 863 in Volume II, uses aspects of poetry as a tool to assist in communicating her thoughts. Levertov applies the theme of marriage, love, and religion to discuss the up and downs of the institution of marriage.…
Choosing a mate is life’s single most important challenge, says Dr. Neil Warren on page two of his book, “Finding The Love of Your Life.” In the 161 following pages, Dr. Warren explains through ten principles why the selection of a spouse is of utmost important. These critical principles were formulated based upon his experiences as a psychologist. He found that the search for a future spouse is often thought of lightly, but this pursuit is not a matter of luck, nor should it be done in jest. Dr. Warren believes that there are skills involved in selecting a spouse and that once these skills are developed by the application of his ten principles, the divorce rate can decrease.…
Today it's becoming harder and more complicated to live in a happy marriage. Men are looked at as slackers while the wife does all the hard work around the house causing great anger for her. In "My Problem With Her Anger," Eric Bartels gives a realistic view of the complicity that comes with working to achieve a happy marriage with kids. Bartels uses his lack of communication and life stories to weaken his argument and relationship.…
Humans have the tendency of comparing their lives with others and in doing so; they miss the charm of enjoying small moments of life. Couples tend to deviate from focusing on gathering happiness and love to be experienced together and rather strive to improve materialistic aspects of life. Unfortunately, couples do not realize the essence of a relationship and most of them think that getting a promotion, driving a better car or living in a lavish house is more important than staying happy and content with what they have. Lack of understanding and communication adds a rift in a relationship that becomes more a liability than a delightful journey which is filled with emotions of love and care. And when a relationship goes through…