Love Of Your Life

Choosing a mate is life’s single most important challenge, says Dr. Neil Warren on page two of his book, “Finding The Love of Your Life.” In the 161 following pages, Dr. Warren explains through ten principles why the selection of a spouse is of utmost important. These critical principles were formulated based upon his experiences as a psychologist. He found that the search for a future spouse is often thought of lightly, but this pursuit is not a matter of luck, nor should it be done in jest. Dr. Warren believes that there are skills involved in selecting a spouse and that once these skills are developed by the application of his ten principles, the divorce rate can decrease. The central theme that his ten principles center around is that …show more content…
Emotions are fickle, feelings fade, but Warren promises that by following his ten principles, marriage can still be magnificent. Warren describes marriage as a partnership. A life investment with a man who likes what I like, who thinks the way I think, and who works as hard to make the marriage succeed as I do. Yet, above all else, thoroughly loves me and contributes to my growth and self-esteem. In order to find this life partner, I have to choose the right man. Warren’s first principle advising to Eliminate the Seven Most Prevalent Causes of Faulty Mate Selection will help prevent choosing the wrong man. The task of marriage is underestimated, and in order to avoid selecting the wrong mate the decision to get married should not be made quickly, the first cause of faulty mate selection. Dating for a couple of years, Warren says, provides a good foundation and time for the two …show more content…
It is of great importance that I have emotional and mental stability before I enter into a life long marriage. In order to know whether I am similar to the man I am planning to marry, I must know myself. I must know what I like, what I dislike, my own quirks, and my own ambitions. Warren emphasizes that it is imperative for both individuals to develop their own self-concept and identity. In order to have a healthy mindset, both spouses must have an inner security that does not depend on their ability to be right all of the time or the need to constantly evaluate their self worth. Warren says that inner security comes from spending time with those who affirm, value and listen the individual. It comes from cultivating relationships through being authentic, not by putting on a mask to impress or become someone