Love In The Age Of Like By Stephaniz Coontz Summary And Analysis

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The process of a marriage or divorce will never be easily explained. How do these people make a marriage work, how have they been successful or failed? Marriage has been studied over the years and these two authors give insight into how it has changed. Stephanie Coontz, author of “Origins of Modern Divorce'', writes about how marriage has changed in history. She talks about how marriage and divorce have changed, why people married, and why they divorced. Aziz Ansari's article “Love in The Age of Like” is about the way technology has changed dating, love, and life. His article doesn’t reference much history but stays to modern relationships. The differences in these two articles stand out, Ansari's tone is informal, he uses jokes to reach his audience, while Coontz is very formal, right to the point and many facts.

The two authors of these articles appeal to logos, they explain how time has changed the aspects of marriage and divorce of today. Coontz article talks about how divorce is different all over, in the Japanese society women would have to put in years at a special
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Derek, for example, is said to be a normal guy who is a regular OkCupid user, a dating app, he allowed Ansari to watch him as he went through his options. Derek ended up turning down what was said as a beautiful girl because of one tiny detail, a detail that 15 years ago he wouldn’t have known about unless he personally, asked her. “ I asked what was wrong, and he replied, “She likes the Red Sox.” I was completely shocked” (Ansari 43). In today's dating era, he was so easy to pass her by and never take a second look because of a fact as small as her favorite baseball team. Coontz fails to use any personal experiences to grabs the reader's attention, while her article makes a good statistical point nothing emotionally connects to the

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