Mistakes were made

In the book, Mistakes Were Made (but not by me), Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson are able to showcase true life accounts of people that have made wrong decisions that were either unacceptable or completely terrible, who justified their actions as if they did nothing wrong. People do this because as humans, it is too complicated for us to admit that we have done something wrong, so instead we like to cover ourselves up with justifications. This then causes for the person to make the assumption that they have not made a mistake, but instead that others that surround them do. Each person has someone to help them make choices, whether it be a personal advisor, a partner, a whole community, they are there to assist, but usually, people like to…

Mistakes Were Made To error is human, is something everyone has heard at least once in their life. However, many people take this for granted by continuing to error in the same way multiple times. Realizing that I made a mistake, and I am truly repentant of it will grant me forgiveness, however, if I keep making that mistake, then forgiveness comes to pity and disgust. I made a mistake this past summer that could have changed my life, and possibly even ended it. I learned many things from this…

The book Mistakes Were Made, talks about the decisions we make and how and why we do the decisions psychologically. Mistakes Were Made, shows in good detail why people always disagree agree or have biases. A major aspect in the book is the factual evidence, with lots of examples, now because I am not a psychologist I must agree with the authors as it shows good evidence, as it seems that they use their past lives as examples, the info given makes sense and seems like common sense, so it should…

Journal Two One important aspect in the book Mistakes Were Made but not by me is irrevocability. I conclude that irrevocability is an important aspect of the book because it explains dissonance in the book which is when two of your beliefs collide and put you into a state of mental discomfort. Irrevocability is when you have made a decision that is irreversible, this supports the theory of dissonance because when you make a poor decision you try to release that tension in your thoughts and…

The author of Mistakes Were Made(but not by me) claims that testifying is as serious as it seems because people have been wrongly convicted of crimes that they did not commit. As an example, defense attorneys, taped interrogations, perjury laws, and so forth are many strategies that can be used to commend someone for their crimes. If testifying is as serious as the book makes it, there is nothing being done about it because people refuse to acknowledge their wrongdoing. Testifying is most…

justice and the people that are caught up in it, lead to undesired consequences. In the book, Mistakes Were Made (but Not by Me) by Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson, the idea of testilying is seen as a serious problem and that couldn’t be more right. Although, to beg the question, why isn’t something done about it? Well, no one wishes to interfere with others that may falsely accuse them as well. Even with this in mind, higher officials discluding evidence for different reasons, police tampering…

The problem of “testilying” is as serious as the book Mistakes Were Made But Not By Me makes it out to be. “Testilying” leads to perjury, which is lying under oath in a court for example, meaning that if a police officer gives a false testimony the wrong person could be punished for an action not carried out by them. Nothing is done about it because it is hard to detect and the only way you could change the testimonials mind is by getting past their cognitive dissonance, which we know is a…

Can We Avoid Mistakes? In Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson’s book Mistakes Were Made (but not by me) they claim that we can defeat the demon of self-justification by understanding how it works. “When politicians’ backs are against the wall, they will reluctantly acknowledge error but not their responsibility for it” (Tavris/Aronson 4). How many of us use self-justification in relationships, jobs and purchases we make? We stay in unhealthy relationships, dead-end jobs, and buy items we don’t…

Mistakes Are Made Philosophers say, that in order to accept responsibility, you have to accept the fact that a mistake was made. Have you ever been loved so poorly, that you think that it is the best kind of love that there is? Well, that is where I was at and that was my first mistake. Throughout life, there are many times that people know that they made a mistake, but they still choose to not accept what they have done. There have been many accounts in my life that I did not take…

Latice Castro In the article “Japanese Ghosts Don’t Have Feet” by Liza Dalby, an anthropologist’s experienced several mistakes while staying with her host family. The cultural values that where linked to her mistakes were collectivism vs. individualism, power distance, and nurturing vs. achievement. In this paper I will discuss the different ways she could have avoided her mistakes applying communication competence skills such as involvement, empathy, and cognitive complexity. Collectivism…