Essay about Marriage Guidance: Summary Notes
MGG201W – Marriage Guidance – facilitative couples counselling
Theme ONE – Understanding couples
Intimacy involves: love, affection and caring, deep attachment to another person.
The TRIPOD of couple relationships
An intimate relationship consists of three factors that form a tripod on which the relationship rests.
1. Passionate attraction (PA)
2. Mutual expectations (ME)
3. Personal intentions (PI)
Passionate attractions (PA)
→ Individual experiences intensely pleasurable sensations when thinking about or being with a new partner.
→ Blushing, trembling, breathlessness, high sexual desire
→ Referred to as infatuation = passing love “a foolish and unreasoning love’
→ Infatuation is not …show more content…
Culture and ethnicity manifest in language, faith, race, national and geographic origin, family formation
An individual’s sense of self is implicitly intertwined with his/her cultural beliefs and sense of belonging to an ethnic group
Schematic comparison of the Western and African Views of the person and worldviews
Western view of the person and the worldview
Separateness and Independence
Survival of the fittest
Control over Nature
Values and Customs
African view of the person and the worldview
Co-operation and interdependence Survival of the tribe
One with nature
Definition of a family
Western / Anglo descent – family is mother, father, child with little reference to extended family. Privacy and independence from family of origin highly prized.
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Marriage Guidance – Summary
African descent – family includes extended family, and are responsible for each other with permeable boundaries between them. Little or no privacy from their relatives.
Ancestral spirits are