Managing Conflict The case study in managing conflict emphasize the distinctive issues in marriage. In addition to marriage, Lorraine and Harvey were married for over ten years, this occurred when they were young, in their early twenties. With this intention, Lorraine used her marriage to escape from her parents. However, as they proceeded in their marriage, there was turbulence involved that led to conflict. As a counselor, my goal is to assess and identify the core issues in the marriage. In this case, managing conflict in their marriage is a step-by-step process because it often involves in changes of the cycle. As I proceed with the analysis of the case, I would state the theoretical and conceptual framework that is applicable to help
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First and foremost, I would restructure the interaction, that is, to suggest Lorraine look directly on Harvey’s eyes and ask if he loves her for who she is and does he accept the way she is as a woman. This is an opportunity for Lorraine to acknowledge that she has someone that is not critical and judgmental and loves her very much and is very supportive. Must be remembered that Lorraine views herself as a perfectionist and controlling and often feels guilty when her mother finds things to be disorganized such as: the house etc. On the other side, Harvey feels that he is tired of being abused by his wife and when he pursues his needs, are often neglected that caused him to be frustrated in the relationship.
The dialogue is followed as:
Therapist: Lorraine, I want you to look directly into Harvey’s eyes and ask him if he really loves you for who you are and does he accept the way you are as a woman? Lorraine: (Turns to the right position to face Harvey) Harvey! Do you love me as your wife and do you accept who I am as a …show more content…
Are they both committed to the relationship? As the first question stated above, the response is Lorraine wants to separate from her husband because she is unhappy, however, Harvey does not want to be separated from his wife neither his children. Lorraine refuses to take into consideration of Harvey’s disagreement. Secondly, both couples are committed, however, one of the couples is more engaged than the other, that is, Harvey (pursues) affection and communication while Lorraine (withdrawals) affection and communication. Secondly, to begin to make a hypothesis as to the vulnerabilities and attachment issues underlying each partner’s position in the relationship. Both of the couple presents vulnerabilities and attachment issues, that is, Harvey’s position, he is vulnerable in the relationship because he is not being responded to his needs, while Lorraine’s position, she has attachment issues. By all means, these are the goals that can make couple work, especially, on the issues that are identified. It is crucial to define the dance and listen to music, that is, is followed in step 1 and 2, and is the treatment process of the delineation of conflict issues and the identification of the negative cycles that maintains the couple’s distress and
First and foremost, I would restructure the interaction, that is, to suggest Lorraine look directly on Harvey’s eyes and ask if he loves her for who she is and does he accept the way she is as a woman. This is an opportunity for Lorraine to acknowledge that she has someone that is not critical and judgmental and loves her very much and is very supportive. Must be remembered that Lorraine views herself as a perfectionist and controlling and often feels guilty when her mother finds things to be disorganized such as: the house etc. On the other side, Harvey feels that he is tired of being abused by his wife and when he pursues his needs, are often neglected that caused him to be frustrated in the relationship.
The dialogue is followed as:
Therapist: Lorraine, I want you to look directly into Harvey’s eyes and ask him if he really loves you for who you are and does he accept the way you are as a woman? Lorraine: (Turns to the right position to face Harvey) Harvey! Do you love me as your wife and do you accept who I am as a …show more content…
Are they both committed to the relationship? As the first question stated above, the response is Lorraine wants to separate from her husband because she is unhappy, however, Harvey does not want to be separated from his wife neither his children. Lorraine refuses to take into consideration of Harvey’s disagreement. Secondly, both couples are committed, however, one of the couples is more engaged than the other, that is, Harvey (pursues) affection and communication while Lorraine (withdrawals) affection and communication. Secondly, to begin to make a hypothesis as to the vulnerabilities and attachment issues underlying each partner’s position in the relationship. Both of the couple presents vulnerabilities and attachment issues, that is, Harvey’s position, he is vulnerable in the relationship because he is not being responded to his needs, while Lorraine’s position, she has attachment issues. By all means, these are the goals that can make couple work, especially, on the issues that are identified. It is crucial to define the dance and listen to music, that is, is followed in step 1 and 2, and is the treatment process of the delineation of conflict issues and the identification of the negative cycles that maintains the couple’s distress and