Resource Center, 2011 stated, “Only one-half of the husbands felt comfortable with the level of companionship and sexual intimacy in their marriages. Likewise, one-half of dual military couples in the Air Force had reservations about wives remaining on active duty.” This report shows that even when both spouses are in military service, deployments and the separation associated with them begin to cause tension on the relationship over time.
Deployments
Military service members have the challenge of being deployed, often in life or death-situations, the spouse is forced to learn to care for and support their partner through a long-distance relationship, care for the home in some cases, be a single parent. Not all newly married spouses prepares …show more content…
In the book, Surviving Deployment: A Guide for Military Families (Pavlicin, 1999), interviewed many military families that recounted their hardships and triumphs as they worked together to bring normalcy to their lives during military deployments. One family told of the hardship the deployment was to their child, Sam, "Katie Laude "Our middle son, Sam, would not even look at his dad when he got off the plane. When he eventually warmed up to him, we had the problem that Sam literally would not let Tom out of his sight for months (Pavlicin, 1999)." Sam's story is not unique. Many children have anxiety issues over the safety of their parent based on whether or not he or she will return, and others become accustomed to not having the military parent in the home. When the parent returns, some children have a hard time knowing which parent requests to respond to or knowing whether to answer to the military parent or not at all. This adds increased pressure to parents who may be learning how to relate to one another as partners again themselves. "Spouses struggle more dealing with their children's separation reactions than just dealing with their feelings” (National Healthy Marriage Resource Center, 2011)." Neglect of the partner can be responsible for the erosion of the
Deployments
Military service members have the challenge of being deployed, often in life or death-situations, the spouse is forced to learn to care for and support their partner through a long-distance relationship, care for the home in some cases, be a single parent. Not all newly married spouses prepares …show more content…
In the book, Surviving Deployment: A Guide for Military Families (Pavlicin, 1999), interviewed many military families that recounted their hardships and triumphs as they worked together to bring normalcy to their lives during military deployments. One family told of the hardship the deployment was to their child, Sam, "Katie Laude "Our middle son, Sam, would not even look at his dad when he got off the plane. When he eventually warmed up to him, we had the problem that Sam literally would not let Tom out of his sight for months (Pavlicin, 1999)." Sam's story is not unique. Many children have anxiety issues over the safety of their parent based on whether or not he or she will return, and others become accustomed to not having the military parent in the home. When the parent returns, some children have a hard time knowing which parent requests to respond to or knowing whether to answer to the military parent or not at all. This adds increased pressure to parents who may be learning how to relate to one another as partners again themselves. "Spouses struggle more dealing with their children's separation reactions than just dealing with their feelings” (National Healthy Marriage Resource Center, 2011)." Neglect of the partner can be responsible for the erosion of the