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TIMELINE:
1. Two summers ago on a Thursday night after we went out for dinner, my best friend Julia received a phone call from her mother, who has suffered from alcohol dependence syndrome for years.
2. Her mother told her that she had signed up for Alcoholics Anonymous classes, was feeling much more exultant and energetic, and was overall in an extremely better condition.
3. The following Saturday, while Julia was taking a shower, her mother called, and because of our very close relationship, I answered the call.
4. She was clearly at the bar with friends, drinking and very intoxicated. While talking to me, she had very slurred speech and I couldn’t even understand what she was saying a majority of the time.
5. I was astonished and stuck in the middle of the situation, not wanting to hurt my best friend’s feelings because of how happy she was when she heard the recent good news, but being aware that she needed to know. 6. I discussed it with Julia a couple days later, and she was very upset - almost mad at me because I didn’t tell her immediately. However, she understood why I didn’t and told me she would try to talk to her mother about it. 7. …show more content…
The struggle continues to this day, except her mother is in an even worse condition. She lost her job and lives with her boyfriend, since she lost custody of her daughter years and years ago after becoming violent and shattering Julia’s phone. Her boyfriend is completely providing for her and doesn’t encourage her to stop being involved with alcohol. She consistently goes to the bars, calls my best friend, intoxicated, and lies about her improving condition. Julia is constantly giving her advice, and relaying my advice to her, but alcohol dependence syndrome is very difficult to overcome. The only difference between present day and that memory from two summers ago is that I personally experienced it, not Julia.
FEELINGS THAT CONTRIBUTED TO MY UNDERSTANDING OF TRUTH:
I felt like I told a white lie by not immediately telling Julia about the phone call she received. She absolutely had the right to know, especially because it had been a long lasting struggle between her and her mother, but I wanted time to think about the situation and how I would properly handle it. I had an unlimited amount of emotions regarding the fact that I didn’t tell her at first, including guilt, anger, confusion, hurt, and sympathy. After I told Julia about the call, she had expressive emotions and was very upset about the deceit from her mother. Context Person in scene/life Their relationship to you in the memory + their involvement in the memory Their relationship to you now + whether the scene influenced this Julia She was my best friend and also the person who allowed me to have a major perspective change. Julia is still my best friend and actually goes to the same college as me. She frequently tells me about how her mother is doing and opens up to me about it. However, it is not a desirable topic of conversation. The situation gave me a more profound love and understanding for her because I couldn’t imagine going through what she is. Julia’s mother Julia’s mother and I were always very close. After she lost custody of her daughter and Julia moved to Virginia, Julia and I immediately became best friends. I instantly connected with her mother after meeting her because she was a lot like mine. The only difference was that my mother didn’t have a major drinking problem. It’s hard to genuinely respect her when she does what she does, but as a sober woman she is very sweet, loving, compassionate, and deeply cares about Julia and I. The unhinged relationship she has with her daughter has affected both of them along with me. Julia’s mother is still a big part of her life. We frequently Skype and talk on the phone whenever she is completely sober and acting pleasantly. After this situation, it is really hard for me to look at her in the same light, and even talking to her now I can’t help but think about
TIMELINE:
1. Two summers ago on a Thursday night after we went out for dinner, my best friend Julia received a phone call from her mother, who has suffered from alcohol dependence syndrome for years.
2. Her mother told her that she had signed up for Alcoholics Anonymous classes, was feeling much more exultant and energetic, and was overall in an extremely better condition.
3. The following Saturday, while Julia was taking a shower, her mother called, and because of our very close relationship, I answered the call.
4. She was clearly at the bar with friends, drinking and very intoxicated. While talking to me, she had very slurred speech and I couldn’t even understand what she was saying a majority of the time.
5. I was astonished and stuck in the middle of the situation, not wanting to hurt my best friend’s feelings because of how happy she was when she heard the recent good news, but being aware that she needed to know. 6. I discussed it with Julia a couple days later, and she was very upset - almost mad at me because I didn’t tell her immediately. However, she understood why I didn’t and told me she would try to talk to her mother about it. 7. …show more content…
The struggle continues to this day, except her mother is in an even worse condition. She lost her job and lives with her boyfriend, since she lost custody of her daughter years and years ago after becoming violent and shattering Julia’s phone. Her boyfriend is completely providing for her and doesn’t encourage her to stop being involved with alcohol. She consistently goes to the bars, calls my best friend, intoxicated, and lies about her improving condition. Julia is constantly giving her advice, and relaying my advice to her, but alcohol dependence syndrome is very difficult to overcome. The only difference between present day and that memory from two summers ago is that I personally experienced it, not Julia.
FEELINGS THAT CONTRIBUTED TO MY UNDERSTANDING OF TRUTH:
I felt like I told a white lie by not immediately telling Julia about the phone call she received. She absolutely had the right to know, especially because it had been a long lasting struggle between her and her mother, but I wanted time to think about the situation and how I would properly handle it. I had an unlimited amount of emotions regarding the fact that I didn’t tell her at first, including guilt, anger, confusion, hurt, and sympathy. After I told Julia about the call, she had expressive emotions and was very upset about the deceit from her mother. Context Person in scene/life Their relationship to you in the memory + their involvement in the memory Their relationship to you now + whether the scene influenced this Julia She was my best friend and also the person who allowed me to have a major perspective change. Julia is still my best friend and actually goes to the same college as me. She frequently tells me about how her mother is doing and opens up to me about it. However, it is not a desirable topic of conversation. The situation gave me a more profound love and understanding for her because I couldn’t imagine going through what she is. Julia’s mother Julia’s mother and I were always very close. After she lost custody of her daughter and Julia moved to Virginia, Julia and I immediately became best friends. I instantly connected with her mother after meeting her because she was a lot like mine. The only difference was that my mother didn’t have a major drinking problem. It’s hard to genuinely respect her when she does what she does, but as a sober woman she is very sweet, loving, compassionate, and deeply cares about Julia and I. The unhinged relationship she has with her daughter has affected both of them along with me. Julia’s mother is still a big part of her life. We frequently Skype and talk on the phone whenever she is completely sober and acting pleasantly. After this situation, it is really hard for me to look at her in the same light, and even talking to her now I can’t help but think about