The Importance Of Single Parent Relationships

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Being raised by a single parent, I feel my expectations are more extreme in my relationships compared to a person who was raised in a two-parent household.
My mom taught me to never count on anyone, let alone a man to get things done. Growing up without a male figure in our house me and my sister learned how to do things a man would normally do; I know very sexist of me. Our mother expected so much from us it was hard to differentiate our roles from what a woman should do and what a man should do. We learned to do it all. So, growing up I have that same mentality, while I feel that it has given me some good qualities in my past and current relationships I know that I have some bad qualities too. Do I blame my mother for a lot of my disappointments in life, yes I did? As an adult, I look back and realize the blame can only be so much on her and that for me to grow as a person I needed to own up to my own failures and take responsibility for my decisions in my life.
My mother never allowed me to date in high
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It was the day I also found out I was pregnant with my daughter, my luck right. I had so many emotions running thru my head. Should I still leave? Will I make a good single parent? Then I remembered how hard it was not having a farther figure growing up and I didn’t want that for my daughter, so I stayed. I stayed for eight years becoming this bitter, resentful, hateful person that even I couldn’t stand. It not only affected me but my relationship with my daughter, my family and friends, and workplace. I didn’t like the person I had become. This person who decided to give up her own happiness for her daughter. Then one day I woke up and decided no more feeling like this. I needed to be better for me and my child and so I left. For two years, I fought with myself on if I did the right thing. Did I try everything? Did I put forth the best effort? In the end, I do believe that I gave it everything I

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