I Have the Right to Be Healthir Than Those Surrounding Me Essay

1850 Words Sep 28th, 2015 8 Pages
I Have the Right to Be Healthier Than Those Surrounding Me

Growing up in an alcoholic home had a major impact on the person I am today, but it isn’t who I am today. I used to be scared of my own shadow, lacking confidence and self- esteem. This stemmed from a father who used to insult and criticize everything I ever did. Belittled every achievement I ever made. Nothing I ever did seemed to be good enough, I either made par or I constantly disappointed him. A small example of this was before graduation, my father told me he didn’t think I was going to graduate. He didn’t think I was smart enough to pass high school. I graduated Summa Cum Laude in a class of over 500 students. I was afraid of authority figures and criticism. This was
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Until just recently I have always sought this out, even sabotaging situations that were peaceful because peaceful loving environments are foreign to me. An example that comes to mind would be once, when my husband and I were having a relatively calm day together, I brought up the subject of his DUI’s which I knew would trigger him to get upset. I did it to break the peace because I’m more comfortable and it feels more “normal” for me to be angry and mad at him than it does for me to be at peace with him.
There are many other character defects that I haven’t yet mentioned that came from growing up in an alcoholic home but I found a way to change them. I found a way to become my own parent. I found Adult Children of Alcoholics, aka ACOA. A branch off of the infamous Alcoholics Anonymous and family Al-Anon meetings.
ACOA has a “laundry List” of fourteen character traits that basically describe to an exact measurement the severe deficiencies in personality of ACOA members. One of the traits that has impacted my life is trait number four. It states-
4.) We either become alcoholics, marry them or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs.
I am currently on my second marriage to an addict/alcoholic and my ex-husband was also an addict. My upbringing has taught me to seek these individuals over others because I

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