Directive Feedback Reflection

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1) The first conversation is with my best friend. At breakfast, he mentioned that he read about someone becoming very upset about recent political events. I asked him what it was about, and he discussed the details of the event (active listening). As we walk to class, I mentioned my progress on a research project I have for my major. He mentioned that as a chemistry major, he did not have to do senior research, as I do, just a presentation. I asked him what his presentation was about, and he replies “organometallics”. I asked him what it is about the compounds he finds interesting (active listening), and he describes the unusual chemistry associated with them. Upon arriving at class, he said that the pace of the biochemistry course is too fast. I said, “It seems really stressful for you. Is there any way I could help?” (Active feedback, relationship paraphrase). He said that yes, it is too much for him, and that it would be good if I can send him one of the study guides I make for …show more content…
I only used empathetic feedback once, with my Mom. My pattern of “identify problems, frame problems, solve problems” may be a reflection of my analytical, scientific background. The relative prominence of directive feedback and lack of empathetic feedback may also be due to my primarily associating with men, as that style is more common in males (Young & Travis, 2012, p. 100). This is supported by the fact that the only time I used it was when conversing with another woman.
By chance, my conversations did not include informational listening or critical listening, although I often use the former when in class. I did not use the judgmental or questioning feedback styles at all, as these are not typical of me. My non-accusatory, non-judgmental manner of speaking makes it so I rarely upset people, and allows serious discussions without igniting

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