Brutally Honest Summary

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Naomi Rosas 09/21/15

Would you like if you had no privacy? Maybe we should treat others how we want to be treated. I myself would feel as if I’m being observed or kept under surveillance. Which can be the leading cause to paranoia or even schizophrenia? Everyone has their own coping mechanism and/or their own way of handing situations. Imagine if you as a parent were the reason behind it all. Parents have the desire to make sure their children are safe, its common nature. In the article Brutally Honest by Kelly Wallace, a mother of three boys, Amanda Rodriguez states “I don’t call it spying, I call it parenting.” I certainly agree with Rodriguez. No mother in her right state of mind would want her child in any hostile environment. Social media is one in many main factors to horrible things happening all over the world. At the same time you have to take into consideration if spying on your children is worth them losing your trust and jeopardizing your relationship. If a parent’s trust has been ruptured, it can be difficult to regain again. Lori Day also a mother quotes “Spying is a good way of sabotaging your relationship with your child if you get caught.” I indeed do agree with Lori Day’s response to spying on our children. I myself might not
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Sometimes doing the right thing is wrong, and doing the wrong thing is right. Last quote but certainly not least, said Terry Greenwald, a father of three grown children “I believe mistakes are one way children learn to listen to parents, and a part of growing up. I realize that allowing them the room to make mistakes is becoming more and more dangerous, but this is the world we live in.” I myself, agree with Greenwald one hundred and ten percent. As much as we want to spy, save, and protect our children, we can’t keep them in a bubble forever with no privacy. They should be able to make their own mistakes in life and look at them as lessons

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