Spyware In The Undercover Parent By Harlan Coben

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In “The Undercover Parent,” a newspaper article written by Harlan Coben (in March 16, 2008), Coben insists that parents install spyware on their children’s computer, but to use it only to a specific level. He argues that parents should have this software to make sure that their kids are guarded and that they are not contacting with anyone that may cause them any harm. However, he also understands that parents should not use it to find out personal information or to read the gossip that happens at school. He supports his points by giving many real life examples and connecting them to what parents care about most: their children’s safety. I have come to agree with Coben’s position as I also believe that parents should have this software because …show more content…
First and foremost, a parent’s number one goal is to be one hundred percent sure that their kids are secure and blissful. Therefore, if spyware ever becomes necessary to fulfill this desire, then it must occur because it is the parent’s duty to be aware of their children’s habits. Coben explains that using spyware is a “scary, but a good idea” (1) as he considers spyware as a system to help parents monitor their kids and be assured of their safety. At first, parents may suppose that using the software is deceiving and that it should never even be considered. But, if they start to ponder on it, then they will understand its importance and effectiveness. Coben gave many examples to prove that this software can help stop or prevent …show more content…
However, kids must start learning that the “Internet is not a haven of privacy” (Coben 1). So, everything on posted can already be seen are all and maybe even seen by future employers, teachers, or dates. As a result, kids have to be extremely careful about what they post and parents should always be updated and aware of what their child is doing on the Internet. Another argument might be that it is illegal to listen to another person’s conversation, which is true, but only applies to people older than eighteen. Furthermore, it is important to remember that this isn’t the government listens, but that child’s own loving and caring parents, “Loving parents are doing the surveillance here, not faceless bureaucrats” (Coben 1). Coben plainly acknowledged that “parenting has never been for the faint of heart” (Coben 2). Being a parent comes with both hardship and joy as kids are a joy but raising them can become tedious. But, if they are raised in an environment filled with love and honesty, then chances are that they will have the same characteristics and they too will do the same. Sure spyware can be used to help parents be updated, but again, that love and kindness can completely move that out of the way. There is nothing that makes a parent more radiant and delighted than knowing that their children are honest with them and explain them

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