Essay On Forced Marriage

. One of my friends went to Pakistan. She had no idea that she was going to get married. She thought she was going for vacation. When she find out, she refused. Her parents told her only way to go back the United States is if you get married. She said "okay" and got married. But she was not happy with her husband. She doesn't blame her parents. She blames the culture. Even if the girl tries to say no she would be accused and would be seen as a shameful person as Lee stated "I'm seen as the shameful, dishonorable daughter who could contaminate their families and their children too"( Lee). The thought of running away from the situation or saying no to it can get difficult for the girl later on in her life. Just not the family members but also outside people would use vary …show more content…
If parents back off when the child gets older, the relatives will start to say bad things to the parents. However, in Pakistan, India and Bangladesh the main things that people or the families care about are the Izzat (honor) and Sharam (shame). According to the "child marriage or forced marriage? South Asian communities in North East England", "norms of Izzat and Sharam play an important role in persuading young women that they should marry according to their parents' wishes, and in some cases, to continue to live within an unwanted marriage" (Gangoli and McCarry page 7). Most of the children care about their parents that they decide to accept the wish of the parents and live with it even though if they are not happy about the decision. If we look at the perspective of religion, no religion agrees with the forced marriages. Every religion gives the rights to choose instead of being forced into it. Poverty is one of the main reasons why forced marriages are so common because marrying off their young girls would reduce the family expenses on food, clothing and