A Wide Variation Between Fathers Of Involvement And The Aspects Of Care

1471 Words Dec 9th, 2014 6 Pages
Consequently, there is very wide variation between fathers in degrees of involvement and the aspects of care they participate in. (Lamb, et al. 1987) Fathers are expected to be less involved than mothers and may see this as a hint that perhaps they should be less involved than mothers. Fathers will think to themselves, “am I not expected to be as involved in my child’s life because I shouldn’t be?” Systems within society are built to accommodate mothers and only acknowledge fathers. Meaning that almost all agencies from prevention to foster care operate with the strategy of reuniting child with mother while doing little more than getting information regarding father. In my personal experience, I’ve witnessed situations where a child comes into foster care and is placed with a foster mother before (s)he is placed with their father (even when the father had nothing to do with the child coming into foster care and lives separately from the mother)! Essentially, the unstated statement in such an instance is that mother is number one, all other women are number two (foster homes are almost never approved unless there is a woman in the home but the presence of a man in the home is rarely relevant to the approval of a foster home) and father is number three!
Furthermore, mothers who lack confidence in the parenting skills of men are likely to limit the involvement of fathers in raising their children, say Jay Fagan and Marina Barnett, professors of Social Administration, Temple…

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