The Importance Of Timid Traps

It is easy for people to fall into traps in life. When people are not aware of traps, they can become doormats and get stepped all over by others. Therefore, avoiding traps is important for them. According to Give and Take, for givers, one of the traps is being too timid. I think a change of perspective is very influential to one’s life and will help him or her conquer difficulties in his or her carrier.
Sometimes, givers are too afraid to ask for anything, even though they are asking with a good purpose because either they are naturally timid or they think too much about others and are not willing to take anything from them. For takers, they come to people for their own benefits, and they do not care about the damage that people might take …show more content…
In Give and take, Sameer Jain was one of the pushovers, and Grant describes him, “Sameer grew up shielded, protected from having to assert himself” (205). He was a weak negotiator and it was his wife who helped him negotiating for his rent. However, he still need to negotiate with his boss to increase his salary. In this case, he should understand that he deserves what he is asking for, and there is nothing wrong to take whatever you deserve. Adam Grant also gave a solution to this one. When people are frightened to ask for more, they should think of all those responsibilities on them. Usually people are not just working for themselves, but also their kids, their partners, and their whole family. Thinking this way, People can have more mind support when asking. For most of the time, bosses will understand people’s situation and reasonably decide whether to raise employees’ salary. In Give and Take, Adam Grant commented on Sameer’s …show more content…
When I was young, I thought I was the only one who was right for everything. I would not accept people’s advice because I always thought I should just do whatever I want to. This perspective has made me not friendly at all. Even though I still had many friends, they did think playing with me was fun, and we sometimes got into fights and broke up. The change of my perspective was not sudden but had a slow progress. I do not even remember when, but I started to think there is no right or wrong in this world, and I should accept other people’s perspectives and thoughts. Since that happened, I have been listening to others more often and I have become more agreeable and more willing to change myself to be a better person. Now I am a more approachable person than before, and I have made a lot of friends who can give me advice to