Close Relationship Analysis

The need to belong makes us vulnerable to failed relationships. As humans, we crave acceptance and companionship. Some of the qualities that many of us look for in a friend include respect, authenticity, trust, interdependence, similarity, and emotional support. All of which can be exemplified at first interactions, but sometimes become obsolete over time, further leading to issues. My reflection on friendships will focus upon the loss of trust and respect I once felt for people I attributed these qualities towards. I will also give insight as to how my respect and interdependence for an individual lead to it being reciprocated and later transformed into a close relationship. At a young age, my parents pampered me to the extent where I began …show more content…
I soon became accepting of the situation, but even then I wasn’t interested in forming new friendships as I had recently disconnected with many of my friends from Chicago in terrible fashion. In order to ease the process I would have to find qualities I most greatly revered in another individual. In my opinion those qualities were interdependency and respect. Left phased from the situation with my parents, I wasn’t comfortable with setting out to find these qualities. However, I decided to motivate and ease myself into the system by joining clubs. I played the bass guitar and decided to join the school jazz band. Everyone else in the band was different, as they played very traditional instruments. However, there was this one kid from Indonesia who I greatly respected as a guitarist. The first meeting is in session and I get to the theatre about 10 minutes early in order to warm up. As I’m playing a few riffs, the guitarist comes in and instead of picking up his guitar, continues to listen to me. He shows interest and respect for my skills. He also comments on some of the riffs claiming to know them. This surprised me as not only did he respect my playing style, but had similar tastes in music. After complimenting me a few times he began to jam along and mentioned how my sense of rhythm worked well with his style. There were a few other bass players at my high …show more content…
Being taught the info allowed me to apply it to my situation and as a result I learned much about myself. How my first friendship in high school came about had no true reason prior to the lecture, but after reflecting back I was able to apply these qualities and was able to examine how he exhibited them at first interactions. I was also able to then see how those I surround myself with held these