Analyze one of your most important relationships. Begin by identifying the individual and briefly describing the relationship. Then use the principles in the chapters to analyze this relationship.
One of my most important relationship is with my boyfriend. Our relationship consists of many aspects including emotional, physical, and spiritual. Our relationship changed and grew over the years. We started out just as friends but as we kept hanging out with each other it turned into more than that. I was always attracted to him but seeing how well we got along made me even more attracted.
1. Consider the variables of why we form relationships (attraction, similarity, complementarity, proximity, etc.). How did these variables function in the …show more content…
Most people think it is not fair to judge people on the first interaction but with starting a relationship we must do this. The first thing people usually look at is physical appearance. It sounds shallow but what we see will shape our perception of the person. Another thing we use at the beginning of the relationship was similarity. During my first conversation with my boyfriend we found out we had a lot in common which made us want to get to know each other more.
As our relationship becomes more established the initial attraction and similarity that drew us together changed. The attraction is still there, however, we see other sides of each other and it's no longer always skin deep attraction. The similarity that first connected us also has changed. Because we know a lot about each other we no longer find the similarities exciting, however, it does help keep our relationship going because of similar interests.
2. Discuss your relationship in terms of Knapp’s Stages of Coming Together/Apart. How did you move from one stage to another? Where are you now? What tells you …show more content…
How do the dialectical tensions function in this relationship? Give at least two specific examples, and describe how you managed the tension.
Dialectical tensions are natural in any relationship, especially in romantic relationships. With my relationship in particular, we have troubles meeting each others expectations. For example, I love quality time with my boyfriend and when he can’t meet that need I get upset. He likes physical touch, like hugging and kissing, when we are apart for school I cannot meet his expectations. Another example of this is when it comes to our families. I have a very traditional family and his family is not like that. This causes some problems when our needs do not match. Another tension that we went through is when we went to different colleges. Our desires to be together changed into wanting to see what the rest of the world looked like. This caused us to be distant from one another. We managed each situation by communicating honestly with each other and understanding each others
One of my most important relationship is with my boyfriend. Our relationship consists of many aspects including emotional, physical, and spiritual. Our relationship changed and grew over the years. We started out just as friends but as we kept hanging out with each other it turned into more than that. I was always attracted to him but seeing how well we got along made me even more attracted.
1. Consider the variables of why we form relationships (attraction, similarity, complementarity, proximity, etc.). How did these variables function in the …show more content…
Most people think it is not fair to judge people on the first interaction but with starting a relationship we must do this. The first thing people usually look at is physical appearance. It sounds shallow but what we see will shape our perception of the person. Another thing we use at the beginning of the relationship was similarity. During my first conversation with my boyfriend we found out we had a lot in common which made us want to get to know each other more.
As our relationship becomes more established the initial attraction and similarity that drew us together changed. The attraction is still there, however, we see other sides of each other and it's no longer always skin deep attraction. The similarity that first connected us also has changed. Because we know a lot about each other we no longer find the similarities exciting, however, it does help keep our relationship going because of similar interests.
2. Discuss your relationship in terms of Knapp’s Stages of Coming Together/Apart. How did you move from one stage to another? Where are you now? What tells you …show more content…
How do the dialectical tensions function in this relationship? Give at least two specific examples, and describe how you managed the tension.
Dialectical tensions are natural in any relationship, especially in romantic relationships. With my relationship in particular, we have troubles meeting each others expectations. For example, I love quality time with my boyfriend and when he can’t meet that need I get upset. He likes physical touch, like hugging and kissing, when we are apart for school I cannot meet his expectations. Another example of this is when it comes to our families. I have a very traditional family and his family is not like that. This causes some problems when our needs do not match. Another tension that we went through is when we went to different colleges. Our desires to be together changed into wanting to see what the rest of the world looked like. This caused us to be distant from one another. We managed each situation by communicating honestly with each other and understanding each others