In our lives, we have many relationships between us and families, friends, or romantic relationship. These relationships have stories from beginning until now or end. Some of the relationships have ended up to be separated or even hate each other while others have lovely moments, and it is continuing forever. These relationships have passed the stages of relationships development and maintenance. There are ten stages which are initiating, experiments, intensifying, integrating, bonding, differentiating, circumscribing, stagnating, avoiding, and terminating. However, I have had a friend whom I liked, but I ended up to break the friendship between me and him. The first stage of relationship development and maintenance is initiating.
…show more content…
According to Adler and proctor (2010), "As a relationship strengthens, the parties begin to take on an identity as a social unit" (p.278). After we found out that we are in the same school, we began to eat together and to help each other in the study. On other words, we started to hang out with each other. Because we hung out a lot, we started to feel that we became friends. The fifth stage of relationship development and maintenance is bonding. According to Adler and proctor (2010), "The parties make a symbolic public gesture to show the world that their relationship exists" (p.279). One day, I came to him, and I asked him if he wants to be my roommate because I have to move out from my cousin's apartment. I told him that my cousin is moving out from Irvine city, and I am looking for a roommate. He said that he would be happy if he is my roommate. After a while, we became a roommate, and we share almost everything with each other. The sixth stage is differentiating. According to Adler and proctor (2010), "The point where the "we" orientation that has developed shifts, and more "me" messages begin to occur" (p.280). After we have been together for a month, I started to notice his negative habits. For example, when he cooks food, he does not wash the dishes. In fact, he will not wash the dishes until it the bad smell comes out. Also, I noticed that he bother me when I was sleeping by talking loudly or doing something woke me
According to Adler and proctor (2010), "As a relationship strengthens, the parties begin to take on an identity as a social unit" (p.278). After we found out that we are in the same school, we began to eat together and to help each other in the study. On other words, we started to hang out with each other. Because we hung out a lot, we started to feel that we became friends. The fifth stage of relationship development and maintenance is bonding. According to Adler and proctor (2010), "The parties make a symbolic public gesture to show the world that their relationship exists" (p.279). One day, I came to him, and I asked him if he wants to be my roommate because I have to move out from my cousin's apartment. I told him that my cousin is moving out from Irvine city, and I am looking for a roommate. He said that he would be happy if he is my roommate. After a while, we became a roommate, and we share almost everything with each other. The sixth stage is differentiating. According to Adler and proctor (2010), "The point where the "we" orientation that has developed shifts, and more "me" messages begin to occur" (p.280). After we have been together for a month, I started to notice his negative habits. For example, when he cooks food, he does not wash the dishes. In fact, he will not wash the dishes until it the bad smell comes out. Also, I noticed that he bother me when I was sleeping by talking loudly or doing something woke me