After taking this interpersonal communication class, I have taken some small steps to become a better version of the self in relationships. Learning from the concepts of listening and language of love and apply those knowledge into my long distance relationships with my mother and my love.
First of all, I try my best to apply the listening strategy with my mother. Listening to others talking is not that easy as we think. Listening has major impact on the quality of our relationships with others. After learning about how to improve the listening skills, I start to notice practicing “active listening” is the most effective way. Active listening is where you make a conscious effort to hear not only the words that another person is saying but, more importantly, try to understand the complete message being sent. My mother raised me up alone since my parents divorced when I was three years old. In order to bear the burden of paying my tuition, taking care of my sick grandpa, and household expenses, she owned her own business. That is why she has a lot of pressure and I became her only listener. After I went abroad, the only chance for me to understand her difficulties was on the phone once a week. Without facially seeing each other, I try to make …show more content…
There are five types of love language; here I’m talking about the word of affirmation. Before, I was not the type of person that saying love frequently. However, I’m trying to keep a long term relationships with my boyfriend who works in LA. We can only see each other when he or I got holiday. Other times, we are talking over the phone and messages. Without quality of time, gifts, and physical touch, the only thing we can do to prove our love is saying them out loud. After I realize how this important for me, I start to say “I love you” forwardly. Nowadays, I can show my love way more easier than before which also tight up our
First of all, I try my best to apply the listening strategy with my mother. Listening to others talking is not that easy as we think. Listening has major impact on the quality of our relationships with others. After learning about how to improve the listening skills, I start to notice practicing “active listening” is the most effective way. Active listening is where you make a conscious effort to hear not only the words that another person is saying but, more importantly, try to understand the complete message being sent. My mother raised me up alone since my parents divorced when I was three years old. In order to bear the burden of paying my tuition, taking care of my sick grandpa, and household expenses, she owned her own business. That is why she has a lot of pressure and I became her only listener. After I went abroad, the only chance for me to understand her difficulties was on the phone once a week. Without facially seeing each other, I try to make …show more content…
There are five types of love language; here I’m talking about the word of affirmation. Before, I was not the type of person that saying love frequently. However, I’m trying to keep a long term relationships with my boyfriend who works in LA. We can only see each other when he or I got holiday. Other times, we are talking over the phone and messages. Without quality of time, gifts, and physical touch, the only thing we can do to prove our love is saying them out loud. After I realize how this important for me, I start to say “I love you” forwardly. Nowadays, I can show my love way more easier than before which also tight up our