According to the REBT theory (1993), Ellis postulates blame is the core of most emotional disturbance: to blame oneself, blame others, and blame the world. In application to Aaron’s case, which Aaron blames is his mother, her boyfriend, his father, former counselors, teachers, and peers are the reason for his unhealthy emotions, behavior, and consequences for such conduct. Additionally, Aaron’s thoughts reflect that no one cares about him. Therefore, what Aaron blames on others is his emotions, for example. his anger as they do not give him what he wants.
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1) Aaron: I ought to have everyone’s approval and be loved.
2) Aaron: I am a bad unlovable person who gets rejected by others so why must I be nice?
3) Aaron: I should be treated …show more content…
Aaron says ' kids in my class must be my friends,' the underlying belief or thought might be "I am unequal and unimportant because other children won't be my friends." Therefore, the counselor will go on to dispute Aaron’s dyad beliefs include that he is hurt then isolated. Additionally, if Aaron says kids ought to be his friend, and they are judgmental, then they reject me. I act out by being rude, yelling out, disruptive and mean. Therefore, Aaron may want to change the original thought of “kids in my class must be my friends” to I am a part of a classroom family, and all family members may not always get along all of the time. Aaron should focus on his consideration toward others, that will make him less frustrated and hurt, and less cynical toward being involved with his peers in school. Thus, Arron will feel hopeful, confident (powerful in a positive way), accepted and peaceful with his classroom peers (new and efficient thinking). It should look like this:
Example 1:
Aaron's current thought (about self or others): Aaron believes and thinks that everyone must love him.
Probable emotions as a result of the thought: I may feel angry, hurt, and depressed.
Actions as a consequence of the thought: I may act on the impulse to get attention by being destructive, obnoxious, and rude, for instance.
New, more rational thought (using the thought above): There will be people in which I will feel they care and there are some who may not want who do not even know me well enough, and that is all right with me.
New emotions as a result of the new thought: I will feel less angry and hurt.
New behavior as a consequence of the change in thought: I will put my focus into those being caring to
2.
1) Aaron: I ought to have everyone’s approval and be loved.
2) Aaron: I am a bad unlovable person who gets rejected by others so why must I be nice?
3) Aaron: I should be treated …show more content…
Aaron says ' kids in my class must be my friends,' the underlying belief or thought might be "I am unequal and unimportant because other children won't be my friends." Therefore, the counselor will go on to dispute Aaron’s dyad beliefs include that he is hurt then isolated. Additionally, if Aaron says kids ought to be his friend, and they are judgmental, then they reject me. I act out by being rude, yelling out, disruptive and mean. Therefore, Aaron may want to change the original thought of “kids in my class must be my friends” to I am a part of a classroom family, and all family members may not always get along all of the time. Aaron should focus on his consideration toward others, that will make him less frustrated and hurt, and less cynical toward being involved with his peers in school. Thus, Arron will feel hopeful, confident (powerful in a positive way), accepted and peaceful with his classroom peers (new and efficient thinking). It should look like this:
Example 1:
Aaron's current thought (about self or others): Aaron believes and thinks that everyone must love him.
Probable emotions as a result of the thought: I may feel angry, hurt, and depressed.
Actions as a consequence of the thought: I may act on the impulse to get attention by being destructive, obnoxious, and rude, for instance.
New, more rational thought (using the thought above): There will be people in which I will feel they care and there are some who may not want who do not even know me well enough, and that is all right with me.
New emotions as a result of the new thought: I will feel less angry and hurt.
New behavior as a consequence of the change in thought: I will put my focus into those being caring to