Reflective Questions On Parenting Styles

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Self – reflective Questions

1. What are your talents, interests and proclivities?
2. As a teenager how did you go about exploring and discovering your talents, interests and proclivities?
3. Who were the significant people who helped you to discover your talents, interests and proclivities ?
4. Based on the ideas given above, which activities do you believe you will find must helpful in helping your teen?
5. Come up with some better ideas of your own to help your teen discover his proclivities.

Diana’s Pearls of Wisdom - Never, I repeat Never, one more time – NEVER take away an activity that the teen really enjoys and gives him a sense of pride and accomplishment. Only GI2 would do such a thing.

Chapter 8
Mentoring Styles

Leadership
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These are the control freaks. Such parents try to run the child’s life for him or her. They don’t trust the child to be able to make appropriate choices or decisions. They have a certain ideas about specific ways they want their children to grow up. Dictating parents have a tendency to use external controls, such as criticism, yelling, belittling or even corporal punishment. The Dictating parent also tends to focus on the negative (what is wrong and what needs to be better) as opposed to what is right and good. The child/person usually is not given the opportunity to make his own appropriate choices and decisions. As a result, the child usually has low self-esteem or an unrealistic inflated sense of self, which is actually serving to mask his insecurities. When faced with having to make a decision, they usually don’t know how. Dictating parents/leaders truly believe that they are doing what is best for the child, molding him into the “right” type of person. Well, what can I say, …show more content…
Dictating parents tend to be competitive, worry about what the neighbors think, want their children to be better than the neighbors children and are concerned about the families reputation and standing in the community. Often get paranoid and become pink panthers – snooping into child’s business.

Upper and Middle Class Dictating Parents can sometimes live their lives vicariously through their children. They are hoping (and in many cases insisting) that their children live out their unlived dreams through their children.

Lower class and poverty

Dictating parents tend to be overly concerned with protecting their children from the woes of the environment, drugs, drive by shootings, skipping school, etc. They want their children to stay out of trouble and get an education; however they do not necessarily want them to leave the neighborhood. They want their children to be able to help the family and the extended family.

The psyche of the Dictating

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