While taking this Marriage and family course, I have come to discover many aspects about my past, current, and future relationships. I have analyzed different types of love such as Romantic love, Friendship love, Erotic love, and Dependent love. Additionally, I have witnessed trouble in my relationships. I have experienced power struggles, sexual aggression, and power tactics that both help and harm. I have also analyzed the impact parents make upon their children. Furthermore, there are different ways to express love, and each partner has his or her unique way of expressing love. Currently, my partner and I are striving to improve our communication with one another. Nevertheless, I am now more aware of what I want (and appreciate) from my
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I feel devastated, when I convince myself that my partner is not listening to me, or doesn’t have time for me. One example of this love language of quality time, relates to the time I spend with my fiancé Jimmy. My finance works full time and is on call frequently so he becomes tired after a long day. Thus, there have been misunderstandings since sometimes I don’t feel as if I have had enough time to say everything I would like to before he goes to rest. Likewise, my fiancé Jimmy has his love language, and it is different from mine, and his revolves upon acts of service. For example, Jimmy works hard to provide for us, and goes out of his way to do things for me and help me in any way he can, to express his love for me. Moreover, although we have different love language styles, our love for one another is strong nonetheless, and by understanding how we each express love towards one another, we have come to a better understanding on how we can make our relationship stronger. In the past, I was guilty of crucializing. In doing so I jumped to conclusions quickly, and exaggerated issues with my …show more content…
I remember one particular ex-boyfriend, he was my first sexual partner, we were not compatible at all. I was 17, and he was 18. Red flags presented themselves throughout our entire relationship, and the two of us seemed to be distracting ourselves from reality. I was lonely, desperate, and felt like I needed a boyfriend. He was infatuated with me for external reasons, sex and of course the money I earned from working at Burger King. My ex had a worrisome time moderating his temper. If I told him that I did not want to have sex or lend him money when he wanted, he would lash out with power tactics such as gas lighting and threats in an attempt to cause enough emotional turmoil for me to give in to what he wanted. Additionally, his father was incarcerated, and his mom lost custody of him due to drug use. Therefore, my ex lived with his grandfather in a mobile home a block from where I used to live. His grandfather forbade him from seeing me, so he rebelled and walked to my house at night to see me. When I realized how incompatible we were and how scared of him I was, I broke up with him. After I told him to stop coming over, he grew so upset that he decided to break into my house. My fiance; on the other hand, is mature and responsible. Jimmy and I are each committed to personal growth, our relationship is fairly stable, and I feel safe and unpressured in this relationship.
I feel devastated, when I convince myself that my partner is not listening to me, or doesn’t have time for me. One example of this love language of quality time, relates to the time I spend with my fiancé Jimmy. My finance works full time and is on call frequently so he becomes tired after a long day. Thus, there have been misunderstandings since sometimes I don’t feel as if I have had enough time to say everything I would like to before he goes to rest. Likewise, my fiancé Jimmy has his love language, and it is different from mine, and his revolves upon acts of service. For example, Jimmy works hard to provide for us, and goes out of his way to do things for me and help me in any way he can, to express his love for me. Moreover, although we have different love language styles, our love for one another is strong nonetheless, and by understanding how we each express love towards one another, we have come to a better understanding on how we can make our relationship stronger. In the past, I was guilty of crucializing. In doing so I jumped to conclusions quickly, and exaggerated issues with my …show more content…
I remember one particular ex-boyfriend, he was my first sexual partner, we were not compatible at all. I was 17, and he was 18. Red flags presented themselves throughout our entire relationship, and the two of us seemed to be distracting ourselves from reality. I was lonely, desperate, and felt like I needed a boyfriend. He was infatuated with me for external reasons, sex and of course the money I earned from working at Burger King. My ex had a worrisome time moderating his temper. If I told him that I did not want to have sex or lend him money when he wanted, he would lash out with power tactics such as gas lighting and threats in an attempt to cause enough emotional turmoil for me to give in to what he wanted. Additionally, his father was incarcerated, and his mom lost custody of him due to drug use. Therefore, my ex lived with his grandfather in a mobile home a block from where I used to live. His grandfather forbade him from seeing me, so he rebelled and walked to my house at night to see me. When I realized how incompatible we were and how scared of him I was, I broke up with him. After I told him to stop coming over, he grew so upset that he decided to break into my house. My fiance; on the other hand, is mature and responsible. Jimmy and I are each committed to personal growth, our relationship is fairly stable, and I feel safe and unpressured in this relationship.