Talk In The Intimate Relationship: His And Hers Summary

Conversation is a key component in everyone 's lives. Without the importance of conversation people wouldn’t really understand how to read people. We need to have good conversation skills to be able to adjust ourselves depending on the situation. In a relationship between two people it’s important for the couple to be on the same level on the conversation scale. If there is just the slightest difference, a conflict will begin to form. The idea of conversation is what keeps relationships on good terms, it easy to say men and women have different ideas about conversation. In Deborah Tannen’s article “Talk in the Intimate Relationship: His and Hers” holds key information about how important a conversation can be. Throughout the article Tannen forms different scenarios where a couple may or may not have conversation problems. This article pushes the idea of how each person wants to talk and how they want to be talk to. How effective listening skills can improve a certain conversation and the reactions given. The idea of "metamessages" is brought up quite a lot. The women in this idea tend to pick up different information from what is actually being said. She can manipulate information into whatever she wants with this idea of "metamessages". Conversation ties in every factor in a relationship and because men and women see conversation differently, the actual issues aren’t being solved. Instead the ideas …show more content…
Throughout the article Tannen gives up information about school cultures, home cultures, and everyday life cultures and how different men and women can be in those different states. Both men and women think differently because how and where they grow up in the world. This idea than moves into the adulthood where one’s ideas may be seen differently than someone else’s ideas. Reacting different, conversing different, and generally going about things