Truly, Madly, Guilty Analysis

As I read the Truly, Madly, Guilty article, my emotions were fiddled with. I went from being angry/disgusted with the author, to sympathizing with her. The author did not relate with the women in her mommy and me class. The women love their husbands, however, they love their children more. Most women, have this instant connection with their newborn, which makes them fall deeply in love with the child. Being pregnant for 9 months and anticipating meeting the child, normally leads to a strong connection/love between the mother and the child. However, this was not the case for the author, she loved her husband more than her children. Initially, I was confused to why she loved her husband more than her children? When the segment of “what if, …show more content…
Every so often we escape from the children for a few days. We talk about our love, about how much we love each other's bodies and brains, about the things that make us happy in our marriage. He seems entirely unperturbed by loving me like this. Loving me more than his children does not bother him. It does not make him feel like a bad father” (Waldman, 2005). As the reader, observing the authors relationship with her husband. I am moved by their relationship, because they are madly in love with each other. They meet all 3 components of Sternberg’s triangle theory of love and relationships, which is why their relationship appears to be happy and healthy. Some people may have difficulties comprehending, why the author and her husband love each other more than their children, when they could love the children and each other in a holistic manner? This strong love for one another is due to the structure of their relationship. Perhaps, if they did not have a great relationship, would they love the children more? This is plausible, however, love is a complex concept which we have no control over. Who we fall in love with is out of our control. More so, loving your husband more than your children is something you have no control