Courting By John Mordechai And Nan Silver

In our culture today, divorce seems to be a common idea among partners with failed marriages. These numbers are growing more and more each day as it seems easier to legally terminate a marriage than to emotionally fix one. The root of this problem comes from the fact that in the new generations, many people do not seem to abide by the rules that God has put in place for couples to follow. Many base finding their “true love” on outward appearance or even materialistic objects. The fact that they search for the perfect husband with a certain style and a certain income is where the mistake begins. Thinking that person is the ultimate partner just because they are physically appealing initiates the wrong mentality in terms of a long term …show more content…
Two years is what it typically takes to know a person up and down, left and right. How much one invests in a marriage is simply how much one will get out of it. The more time one spends getting to figure out the other person and seeing how they handle different situations in life can say a plethora about someone’s personality. Courting is the answer to this huge aspect of relationship issues in separations that are utterly popular in our culture today. In fact, in the novel by John Mordechai and Nan Silver, they talk about the seven principles that make a marriage work. Their number one principle is that spending more time with one’s partner opens roads to ultimate intimacy, or as they call it, a love road from the love map. They describe it as a love map because it is the road that leads to a successful marriage. There are certain levels of trust and love within that road that unlock ideas that will either unite one another cohesively, or reveal the truth that a certain duo was not meant to …show more content…
The truth of the matter is that relying on oneself and the sole human understanding is not biblical, because God wants your trust, and only intends to do what is best for any person, even more than they want it for themselves. Being able to court not only means giving the relationship certain duration in the phase of dating, but also seeking the wisdom of another being, for example the opinion of parents and most importantly prayer to God. Some may say that marriage definitely works without courting because there is still people who are out there, married, and only dated for a couple of months. That is true in many cases, but in those situations it is also true that the foundation to their marriage is weak and without a foundation to place their beliefs and trust in is as if their house was placed on sand rather than on a steady rock. In the article Religiosity, Benevolent Love, and Long-lasting Marriages, Vincent Jeffries states that religion is a strong common bond within a couple, an unbelievable force that keeps them connected. It is a permanent glue that makes both of the people in a relationship become one and not two separate identities with total separate goals. Courting serves as the answer to these failed marriages, actually being able to connect with one’s partner on a non-superficial level and discussing long term goals rather than temporary