Paper On Anger

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Life is filled with ups and downs and sometimes we get caught up in this roller coaster. For some reason, especially with unfortunate events in life, we tend to react negatively towards the problem. I’m pretty sure most of us have our share of unfair consequences For example, getting rear ended in your new car, or getting a C on a test test you studied really hard the night before. These hapless events seem unfair and creates reactions towards life, making us wonder, what did we do to deserve these inequitable happenings. However, these reactions can get the better of us and reward us with consequences we don 't want.
2 The main issue is our reaction, and most all of us tend to resort to one type of reaction, anger. Anger is a powerful
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The continuous flow of stress chemicals that are related to unmanaged anger can eventually cause harm to other systems of the body. Anger can cause headaches, insomnia, increased anxiety, depression, heart attacks (Victoria), all issues that are not beneficial to your body. Anger is not an emotion that can cause happiness. If so, than we should be angry all the time. But in reality, anger is not the approach we should take when dealing with life’s frustrations. I learned this the hard way. I myself had to experience these situations in order for me to learn this lesson. I get irritated a lot. Anything non ideal situation that occurs in my life, my first response is to get angry. I was quick to anger. The way my mom nags at me or when something doesn’t go my way, I get angry. My anger has caused a lot of issues in my family, and I learned that the hard …show more content…
Complaining and getting angry about it won’t help the situation. There is no way for us to be able to control the events were are besieged by. In an article from Psychology Today, Leon F. Seltzer, a Ph.D in English and Clinical Psychology, gives great advice on how to deal with these situations and how to move on. One of the main points he uses is to learn to accept the unfairness. We have no control over what situations we would like to occur in our lives and what situations we would not like to occur in our lives. Plus, getting mad won’t get us anywhere either. I didn’t realize this until a little while after a certain situation occurred in which I thought was

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