He was invited to a university to commemorate him for his services. I feel that maybe if he were a gay man, he would not be invited to speak to a large group of people. The man was hiding the fact that he was not actually happily married to his wife in order to keep his wife and kids happy. Although he still has his urges to sleep with men, he decides to live as a heterosexual man with a wife and kids. He chooses this life for the privileges that come with being heterosexual. For example, others would be more accepting of him, he would be recognized as a good leader, and it would make others around him feel comfortable with his presence. His story is an example that if he were to come out as a homosexual, he would probably not have all the success he has had. This story reminded me of one of the readings we had in class. Sue(2010) explained how these men are “remaining or becoming invisible so they can avoid the risk of being harassed, rejected or possibly of losing job or family relationships” (p. 198). The fear is so powerful that some men feel that they only way they can avoid being assaulted or losing what they care about is by hiding their true
He was invited to a university to commemorate him for his services. I feel that maybe if he were a gay man, he would not be invited to speak to a large group of people. The man was hiding the fact that he was not actually happily married to his wife in order to keep his wife and kids happy. Although he still has his urges to sleep with men, he decides to live as a heterosexual man with a wife and kids. He chooses this life for the privileges that come with being heterosexual. For example, others would be more accepting of him, he would be recognized as a good leader, and it would make others around him feel comfortable with his presence. His story is an example that if he were to come out as a homosexual, he would probably not have all the success he has had. This story reminded me of one of the readings we had in class. Sue(2010) explained how these men are “remaining or becoming invisible so they can avoid the risk of being harassed, rejected or possibly of losing job or family relationships” (p. 198). The fear is so powerful that some men feel that they only way they can avoid being assaulted or losing what they care about is by hiding their true