Establishing Boundaries Of Divorce

The only people that can prevent a divorce from happening are the two partners involved. Prior to marriage, a couple needs to evaluate themselves and decide weather marriage is the best option for them. Partners need to realize that some “characteristics can present assets or liabilities to a relationship. For example, though the personal assets of flexibility and kindness predict marital satisfaction, unmanaged depression and anxiety predict marital troubles” (Duncan, Larson, and McAllister). Couples often rush into marriage or get married for the wrong reasons. Both participants, need to examine themselves and decide whether they are ready for a lifelong commitment with another person, before they decide to get married.

I, myself, am a product of divorce. I watched my boyfriend’s parents, my best friend’s parents, and then finally my own …show more content…
Couples who discuss what they expect to give and receive from their relationship “makes it possible for the couple to make connections between who they are and current challenges in the courtship as well as potential threats to the marriage” (Britzman and Sauerheber). Establishing boundaries is something couples should do throughout their entire relationship. For example, if one partner is constantly staying late at the office and rarely making it home in time for dinner, while the other partner values eating dinner as a family, a boundary needs to be established regarding this conflict. The amount of time that establishing boundaries requires will depend on the couple and number of issues that arise. It is important, that both participants realize, that being in a relationship takes time and effort. Boundaries can be established after an issue has arose or boundaries can be established as a preventative. Either way, establish boundaries allows a couple to connect and have guidelines that will in turn make them a stronger