The Stereotypes Of Divorce

In today’s world, couples delve into marriage with fairy tale hopes and dreams, believing that forever will just happen. Sadly, fairly tales are not real, and this world that we live in can be cruel and unpredictable. By now almost everyone has heard that the national divorce rate is almost 50 percent of all marriages. This is basically true for the married population as a whole. But for many people, the actual chances of divorce are far below 50/50”(Wilcox73). The main question stands: what does each individual marriage need to have in order to overcome the high percentages of divorce? Through my own personal experiences, the most important principles to keep a marriage afloat are the amount of trust built, a great amount of love between each individual and a certain level of commitment to make decisions together. “Trust takes years to build, seconds to break, …show more content…
“I love that place, I love this car, and I love you.” But what actually is love? According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary: “love is a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person”(M. Webster). In a successful marriage, love must forever grow. Love must be unconditional. Love must be given to receive. There are two types of love in any relationship. “Agape love is the selfless, unconditional type of love that helps people to forgive one another, to respect one another, and to serve one another, day in and day out, rain or shine” (McCain). The other is Eros love, which is the sexual desire side of love, both equally important in a long lasting marriage. “It is absolutely crucial that you really, really like your spouse. You hear it all the time from people who are in great marriages: "I'm married to my best friend." They are being literal. A good working definition of "soul mate" is "your closest friend, to whom you are also sexually attracted" (Murray). Love will only last so long without the commitment of making a marriage