The Effects Of External Factors On Relationships

Relationships come and go over time, but there is always external factors that directly influence how our relationships with people end and or how new relationships start up. Our relationships can be altered by simply the distance between one another, for with a new location, we create new relationships and old relationships may remain or change. Relationships can also change by our demands and interests, for if we have a girlfriend or boyfriend or an intensive job, we may have to choose one over another relationship. Distance, interest, and demand affect our relationships, pertaining to communication, and thus meaning that these external factors contribute to whether we maintain a steady communication, have issues with communicating with …show more content…
An external factor, based on interests, which affects how a relationship can change is when a person, can be one’s self or a friend, starts to experiment in different things, ranging from small side hobbies to anything imaginable. Having same and different interests can affect how a relationship grows as well, because according to Jeffrey Simpson and Lorne Campbell (2013), in The Oxford Handbook of Close Relationships, “For example, partners who share the same hobby will exhibit similarity ... But partners just as easily might have different hobbies and prefer an arrangement in which they each pursue their own hobby independently…” Simpson and Campbell (2013) are saying that in a relationship, the external pressure of different or similar interests, affects communication by creating a dynamic where they can communicate together and become similar or they practice their own interest, allowing a situation where the relationship functions because there is no conflict. A relationship can prosper with or without similarity, but according to Simpson and Campbell (2013), “… pursuing their independent hobbies yield better outcomes for each than would be obtained if they both pursued the same hobby”. Simpson and Campbell (2013) say that the external pressure of different interests can build up a relationship and their communication system in a healthy manner. While as one of the major interests that affects high school and college students is the introduction to drugs and alcohol, for the usage of drugs and alcohol can drastically affect relationships with others. Drugs and alcohol can alter relationships, by having current relationships not wanting to indulge in such activities and the same people don’t want to sustain a relationship anymore,