Disconnections can be a misunderstanding, disagreement, or conflicts within relationships (Duffey & Trepal, 2016). Problems can lead to more serious forms of disconnections such as: chronic or traumatic disconnections. A chronic disconnection can create within the person disempowerment and can cause the person to distance themselves from making social connections, which the RCT theory believes that we need to grow (Jordan, 2010). Condemned isolation can result in having difficulty fostering other relationships due to previous experiences, which can also cause the person to postpone growth. These are some of the problems that people can encounter within …show more content…
Central relational paradox is a term that was created by Miller and Stiver in 1997 (Jordan, 2010). When the person feels that they are going into condemned isolation and they are unwilling to make social connections due to vulnerability they are in the process of relational paradox. The person will purposefully use traits of disconnections to keep to themselves avoiding making connections with other people, allowing the person to maintain control but stifling any progress. While in central relational paradox the person maintains the illusion of control but hinders any personal growth. These problems can be mitigated through forming authentic relationships with other people. When you are able to build a trustful relationship you are allowing another person in emotionally. According to the core concepts of RCT (Jordan, 2010) authenticity is necessary for real engagement and full participation in growth-fostering relationship. Through authenticity we are allowing someone to have an impact on our lives, which allows growth (Lenz, 2016).