Love, that dreamy state of euphoria that every human seeks. That first moment when you meet that special somebody. You think about them non-stop, you can 't sleep, you can 't eat, your heart pounds heavy in your chest when you see that exceptional human that God himself dropped into your path. Is that what in love feels like? Then what is it called a few weeks, months or years later when all of those raw feelings go away? What keeps some people together until death do they part, but others can 't keep it together for more than a year or two?
The divorce rate in the United States is so high. As a matter of fact, 40% - 50% of American marriages end in divorce and the rate is even higher for any subsequent marriages. My first marriage ended …show more content…
Seventeen years later, with fourteen of those years spent very happily married to the love of my life, I still wonder what the heck went wrong with that first marriage? Please understand, I am not at all interested in having my old life back. You see, I just don 't ever want to be blindsided like that again. I want to fix things as they break. Obviously, rebuilding something is much harder and takes more time than just making a few adjustments when things start to get a little funky. I am so crazy about my husband and really want him around for the long …show more content…
As it turns out that "in love feeling" that we are initially hit with is actually a chemical reaction of dopamine, norepinephrine and phenylethylamine. Dopamine is the pleasure chemical that produces that giddy feeling. Norepinephrine is like adrenaline and gives you that exited, racing heart feeling. Subsequently, that little cocktail of chemicals swirling around in your body creates elation, intense energy, sleeplessness, craving, loss of appetite and focused attention. Sound familiar? By the way it turns out men more readily produce it because they are more visual. Likewise, another possible explanation for the intense focus and idealizing view is that people in love have lower levels of serotonin. Also, the neural circuits associated with the way we assess others are suppressed. The lower serotonin levels are the same as those found in people with obsessive-compulsive disorder, this could explain why those in love "obsess" about the object of their affection. In studies the evidence suggests that we can get a good two or three years out of this chemical reaction. It is apparent that when you "fall out of love" it is simply because that little chemical reaction in your body has run its course, then a whole new chemical reaction that involves physical love comes in, and that is a whole different subject all
The divorce rate in the United States is so high. As a matter of fact, 40% - 50% of American marriages end in divorce and the rate is even higher for any subsequent marriages. My first marriage ended …show more content…
Seventeen years later, with fourteen of those years spent very happily married to the love of my life, I still wonder what the heck went wrong with that first marriage? Please understand, I am not at all interested in having my old life back. You see, I just don 't ever want to be blindsided like that again. I want to fix things as they break. Obviously, rebuilding something is much harder and takes more time than just making a few adjustments when things start to get a little funky. I am so crazy about my husband and really want him around for the long …show more content…
As it turns out that "in love feeling" that we are initially hit with is actually a chemical reaction of dopamine, norepinephrine and phenylethylamine. Dopamine is the pleasure chemical that produces that giddy feeling. Norepinephrine is like adrenaline and gives you that exited, racing heart feeling. Subsequently, that little cocktail of chemicals swirling around in your body creates elation, intense energy, sleeplessness, craving, loss of appetite and focused attention. Sound familiar? By the way it turns out men more readily produce it because they are more visual. Likewise, another possible explanation for the intense focus and idealizing view is that people in love have lower levels of serotonin. Also, the neural circuits associated with the way we assess others are suppressed. The lower serotonin levels are the same as those found in people with obsessive-compulsive disorder, this could explain why those in love "obsess" about the object of their affection. In studies the evidence suggests that we can get a good two or three years out of this chemical reaction. It is apparent that when you "fall out of love" it is simply because that little chemical reaction in your body has run its course, then a whole new chemical reaction that involves physical love comes in, and that is a whole different subject all