Knapps's Model: Stages Of A Relationship

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The first concept that I would like to apply to my past relationship is the Knapps Stages Model. This model takes about the different stages that we go through in a relationship from when we first begin to when you and your partner decide that it’s time to call it quits. This model mainly focuses on the “coming together “and “coming apart” aspects of the relationship. Knapps model has various of stages of a relationship. Which are Initiating Experimenting Intensifying Integrating Bonding Differentiating Circumscribing Stagnation Avoiding Terminating. This first stage in knapps model is Initiating, this is where you would go and try to woo someone , this is where you introduce yourself and try to use your best pickup lines and basically try …show more content…
The first stage in the coming apart is differentiating which is you as a couple instead of thinking together you start to think and making decision separately or start thinking different. This aspect of the relationship is what brings pressure, with my last girlfriend we couldn’t agree on when we will make it known to everyone that we were together. She wanted to wait and I was young and just wanted everyone to know that probably should have given another sign on where the relationship was going. The second stage in coming apart is Circumscribing this is the part of the relationship when you start to stay distant and try not to bring things up due to fear of an argument. I went through this with my last girlfriend when I didn’t want to bring up that we were not spending time together after we became a couple, because of fear of starting something that wasn’t there. Stagnation is the third stage in coming apart in this stage the relationship just continues to get worse and couples just stay because of obligations that need both of them to be there. this stage was the toughest for me and my ex-girlfriend because we wanted to end the relationship but didn’t want to due it right away because we were best friends before and cared about our feelings but the relationship kept getting worse. The fourth stage is Avoidance in this stage couple …show more content…
There are many factors that can cause a relationship to go wrong. Turing points in relation to relationships is defined as any event or occurrence associated with change in a relationship. There are many types of turning points that would go with different types of relationships, for my last relationship I will be talking about Proximity and distance, communication-based, Commitment & Exclusivity. When talking about Proximity and distance you mostly talking about how close you are with your significant other or family. In my past relationship there was a problem of proximity and distance, even though I lived really close to my Ex-girlfriend we were never spending time to together. It was different when we didn’t date but as soon as we started the relationship we became more and more distant. The second turning point type that we experienced is communication-based which the get to know time of the relationship, where you would find out more about the person you are in the relationship with. I skipped this part of the relationship because I believed that I knew my ex-girlfriend but I was wrong, when we got in the relationship we didn’t take this time to get to know each, which ended up hurting us because we only knew each other as friends and never actually got to put the effort to find out more about each other. The last turning point type is the commitment and exclusivity,

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