The Role Of Love In Aziz Ansari's Modern Romance

Most people think about how love used to be before the 21st century. In the book Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari and Eric Klinenberg, a comedian and a sociologist, both compared the modern and the old way of romance. Ansari and Klinenberg explained how the couples back in the 50’s through 90’s would meet and marry right away. People would marry within their neighborhood for example, in the same building of apartment, just couple blocks down from their house or parents would arrange their marriage. The relationship back then were three steps just somewhat similar today, meet each other, meet each other’s family and meet furthermore of each other throughout the marriage. Women or men back then would be satisfy with the marriage within a short time …show more content…
Asari talks about the research researchers have found of how the brain works. “In the first stage of a relationship you have passionate love. This is where you and your partner are just going ape shit for each other. Every smile makes your heart flutter. Every night is more magical than the last” (214). The principle of love is what the brain makes it and for some people the first stage in a relationship can be lost in a couple month. Therefore, for the modern romance to change then people should change the way the brain works. Another example, “The second danger point is when passionate love starts wearing off. This is when you start coming down off of that initial high and you start worrying about whether this is really the right person” (217). There is only two stage of the mind and once is worn out couples tend to make a conclusion of the other person not having what they were looking for. No matter if people are from back in the 50’s through 90’s or now the stage two stages of our mind worn out and people should put more effort in seeing ways to be compatible to their partner or finding new ways to keep the spark on instead of going to the easy way out