Comparing My Strengths And Weaknesses To Conflict

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Growing up, conflict was something I always viewed in a negative manner. It was to be avoided at all costs, and whenever it did occur, it would usually destroy me. The more I have grown, the more I have realized that conflict is key to development, and that our world needs it to survive. I recently sat down and made a list of the ways I handle conflict in both a beneficial and negative manner. It seems that I have more negative qualities in conflicting situations, but these can be fixed by learning more about conflict itself. After comparing what I saw as my strengths and weaknesses to how others saw them, there is a great opportunity for growth in my approach to conflict. My parents divorced when I was a baby, and each of them have very different approaches to conflict. My …show more content…
I may not have many strengths, but I have strengths nonetheless. In my opinion, I try to see the argument from both sides. That way, I am more careful with the things I say, and have an easier ability to come up with a good compromise. I also have a strong desire to fix things with people. Having people upset with me causes large amounts of anxiety throughout my psychological state. On the flip side, I do tend to bottle my emotions up, simply because I want to avoid conflict as much as possible. When this goes on for an extended period of time, I can explode on a person about something that could just be a minor problem. Everything comes out, and I say things that I do not intend to say. If a compromise is not reached between myself and the other person, I will engage in an avoidant system, because I feel guilty, and all of the hurt experienced in that moment comes rushing back into my mind. I take criticism very poorly – whether it is constructive or just nagging. It becomes a part of who I am, and puts me into a deep state of depression. These practices are not healthy in the

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