Situation: I am angry towards by wife. I have asked her to arrange my shelve. But when I came from office, I saw my shelve and it was a mess. She dint do what I instructed.
Self Reflection:
What am I fearful of?
I am afraid that I am losing my control as a husband.
What am I frustrated about?
Every time I give any instructions she is not listening to …show more content…
I can sit and talk with my wife and ask her difficult in doing the work. I can remind her about the work that is to be done. I can ask the children to help my wife in house hold chores.
Behind all these four process, there is one big giant who is controlling you. Yes, you are right. It is your self-talk. It is nothing but what you say to you or communicates to yourself in any situation. Beware of your self-talk. This is a small worksheet to act on your self-talk.
In an anger provoking situation think,
• What self-talk is mot upsetting you right now?
• Then try to answer these three questions
Is it a fact? Yes/No
Is this self-talk calming you? Yes/No. Why is it not calming you?
Is it giving good ideas to get what you want? Yes/No. What ‘bad ideas’ your self-talk is fuelling?
• If you answer ‘No’ to one or more of the questions then you need to work on it.
Ways to control anger
• Move away from the place
• Choose a calm place and observe your thoughts and self talk
• Analyze if there is any truth in this self talk and your thoughts
• Contemplate on how you behaved
• Understand the consequences of your