I decided to write about my relationship with my dad in this post because Father’s Day just passed and because I’ve already made a post about the incredible bond I have with my dad. In that post I mentioned that he was away in Korea when I was born and I didn’t get to see him until I was 7 months old. My mother, who was only 22 at the time, had a lot of responsibility taking care of the three of us who were all under 3 years old. When my dad came home he took over the caregiving duties for me completely because he wanted to make sure he bonded with me. There was a solid attachment built between the two of us at that time that has been tested over time but never frayed.
When I was 18 my dad decided to leave my mother. I was so heart broken …show more content…
She has only allowed me to come to their house 3 times. There was a process that unfolded that is much too long to go into here but it ended up that my dad and Gloria would have both my sister and brother over to their house for the holidays but I was never invited. I did my best to not be hurt but it was hard when I called their house and said, “Hi Gloria, it’s Pamela, is my dad there?” Only to have her reply, “Pamela who?” As if I really didn’t even exist in her mind. I had the instinct that I needed to just stick with the fact that she was good to my dad and he was happy. I trusted his judgment in her and he felt bad at the way she treated me and made special time for me, which in turn just made us closer than …show more content…
I have always felt, even before this class, that it was the attachment he made with me as a child that gave me this confidence and anything that anyone ever did to separate us would only make the bond stronger, which is what happened. I’m really glad the book covered temperament because I also I think my temperament as an easygoing person helped but I really feel that the solid bond that was created way back when made it possible for me to believe in my father and not be angry with him for all that had
When I was 18 my dad decided to leave my mother. I was so heart broken …show more content…
She has only allowed me to come to their house 3 times. There was a process that unfolded that is much too long to go into here but it ended up that my dad and Gloria would have both my sister and brother over to their house for the holidays but I was never invited. I did my best to not be hurt but it was hard when I called their house and said, “Hi Gloria, it’s Pamela, is my dad there?” Only to have her reply, “Pamela who?” As if I really didn’t even exist in her mind. I had the instinct that I needed to just stick with the fact that she was good to my dad and he was happy. I trusted his judgment in her and he felt bad at the way she treated me and made special time for me, which in turn just made us closer than …show more content…
I have always felt, even before this class, that it was the attachment he made with me as a child that gave me this confidence and anything that anyone ever did to separate us would only make the bond stronger, which is what happened. I’m really glad the book covered temperament because I also I think my temperament as an easygoing person helped but I really feel that the solid bond that was created way back when made it possible for me to believe in my father and not be angry with him for all that had