Single Parent Now Essay

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Single Parent for Now

Growing up with a single mother and men coming in and out of my life was hard to trust but then one man came along and showed me that not all men are the same.

I was raised by a single mother and had to learn things about men from a female. My mom taught me how to tie my shoes, ride my bike, throw a ball, and my mom even took me for my first haircut. I became what our society calls a “mommas boy.” As a child I didn’t know the difference because it was always just me and my mother. I was born in Rochester, NY and moved to Cleveland when I was 1 and a half. We moved into my grandmother’s half house and lived on the top floor. My father didn’t want to move with us so he stayed back in N.Y. I was too young to realize what
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His name was Juan and he was 18 when he started dating my mom. My mom was about 15 years older than him but I didn’t know that until I was a little bit older. He was over my mother’s apartment all time, so I saw a lot of him. I got really attached to him and considered him a father figure because I didn’t know any better. So we started to go over his family 's house and got a lot closer and started to become a form of family that I wasn’t familiar with. Then when I was about 7 years old we moved into his apartment and I started to know what it felt like to have a family with two parents. I always seen all my friends with two parents and I felt like I was the only one who was being raised by a single parent. And before I could even find out what this was going to become, he proposed to my mother one Christmas morning and I never seen my mother so happy before. I began to start calling him my dad and it gave me one the best feeling as a child. But as a child you don’t know what’s going on behind the scenes. You can’t judge a book by its cover and think everything is perfect because it might be the complete opposite. From my perspective it was everything I could’ve ever …show more content…
However, Rick never gave me any reason not to like him with my mother. And I knew I wasn’t going to live with my mother my whole life, so I just stopped trying to interfere with what they had. I started to drift away from my mom because whenever I would want to talk to my mom Rick would snoop in. Through all of middle school and the first two years of high school; my relationship with Rick wasn’t good. He always wanted to act like I was his real son and I wasn’t for that. My mother was the glue that was holding this relationship between Rick and I together. And as I started to mature I began to realize that Rick was the only man that stayed faithful to my mother for this long of a period. For that I respected him and trusted him with my mom. Now today my relationship with Rick is better than I would have imagined about 4 years ago. Rick helped my mother and I trust again. Once trust is broken it’s hard get it back but everyone is different and deserves a

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