Masculinity In Boy

For a boy, to be “masculine” can mean a great number of different things. Whether it be society’s concept of dominant masculinity, or maybe the increasing number of ways in which a boy can be considered a real man, the list just seems to drag on and on. In order for most boys in school not to get picked on, they must have some sort of masculinity, and virtually no femininity. A lot of boys don’t want to be masculine, and even though everyone has the freedom to act how they choose, these boys will still bullied constantly. Sometimes, the masculine boys may think they are joking when name-calling those who they believe are not masculine enough, but the more these less masculine boys are picked on, the worse their self-esteem becomes. Maybe …show more content…
There may be many factors that change how a boy acts as he grows up, but his parents are the first ones able to mold him to their liking (Sebastian 2). Maybe instead of deciding whether a boy will be more masculine or more feminine, parents can let the boys choose how they want to act, and in the meantime teach them not to pick on anyone based on how they act and what they’re interested in. Of course, this isn’t probable, and some parents will continue to teach their kids masculine ideals. A common masculine lesson that parents teach their children is that fighting is the best way to stop bullying (Hydenius 1). Instead of fighting, teaching kids to talk to a teacher or counselor if they are being bullied has always seemed to work. Another idea some parents believe is “we live in a feminized society that treats boys as if they were defective girls” (Sebastian 2). A boy being taught ideas like this could directly lead to him bullying all things feminine, since many boys believe feminism is below them. Some boys, however, may never even have the opportunity to become masculine whether they want to or not. A boy’s potential to become masculine is restricted when his mother is too protective or his father leaves him at an early age (Frank et al 119-120). With no fatherly role model or too much motherly protection, a boy may never learn the masculinity that they need in today 's society in …show more content…
First of all, every administrator in any school should be there for those being bullied if they can’t stop the bullying. “...Administrators, teachers, and counsellors, who are in key positions in schools and educations systems, have a great capacity to effect change and to work on behalf of the students who are in their duty of care” (Martino 42). A good place to begin ending the harassment is helping those who have already been harassed. Of course, it’s hard to get anything done when school’s don’t have guidelines to follow regarding the bullying. Some schools don’t even have policies in place that oppose any sort of homophobic actions (Smith 181). Even though it’s common sense for teachers and counselors to prevent bullying, maybe a rule to force this upon them is required. Some teachers will go as far as segregating certain types of boys from others if one group is too ‘weird’ (Smith 189). Without written rules, teachers may follow their own set, allowing them to pick favorites and shun those who they deem “weird.” To make matters worse, there are teachers who may unintentionally bully the less masculine boys too. Some may shame boys who they believe are not masculine enough (732-733). Sometimes it may be on purpose, which can be absolutely devastating to the non-masculine boys who don 't have anyone on their side. Then, there’s