How Guy Codes Affects the Growth of Boys The rules that boys and men are told to follow fall under the “guy code”. The code tells males of any age to act and be strong, tough, powerful, aggressive, dominant, and so on. The truth about the guy code is that it damages males in an emotional way. Since they are always told to follow the guidelines, males cannot always show their true feelings. Showing any type of emotion or doing any action that is not masculine will result them in being judged by other males like their fathers, uncles, or male friends. With the guy code always being reinforced on young men, it shapes them to be masculine but hide their feelings. The writings “Bros Before Hos: The Guy Code” by Michael Kimmel and “Becoming Members of Society: Learning The Social Meaning of Gender” by Aaron H. Devor show how men grow up following the
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Men are told they are supposed to be the dominant ones in a relationship. In “Becoming Members of Society: Learning The Social Meaning of Gender”, Devor explains that masculinity is usually associated with aggression and dominance. Men use aggression to be more egoistic dominant (Page 5). Men think that being tough and in control makes them look powerful. They also connect dominance and aggressiveness to success. In “Bros Before Hos: The Guy Code”, Kimmel writes “don’t get mad – get even” and “nice guys finish last” in a list of sayings that men have said (Page 1-2) Those sayings indicate how masculinity relates to aggression and power. When men get hurt or humiliated in any type of way, they don’t talk about their feelings, cry about it, or let karma do their work, they simply take matters into their own hands. Men will get into fights with anyone who they think are a threat to them or are intimidating their masculinity. The male mind is set to believe that everything they do must be done with aggression for them to be successful and for other people to think they
Men are told they are supposed to be the dominant ones in a relationship. In “Becoming Members of Society: Learning The Social Meaning of Gender”, Devor explains that masculinity is usually associated with aggression and dominance. Men use aggression to be more egoistic dominant (Page 5). Men think that being tough and in control makes them look powerful. They also connect dominance and aggressiveness to success. In “Bros Before Hos: The Guy Code”, Kimmel writes “don’t get mad – get even” and “nice guys finish last” in a list of sayings that men have said (Page 1-2) Those sayings indicate how masculinity relates to aggression and power. When men get hurt or humiliated in any type of way, they don’t talk about their feelings, cry about it, or let karma do their work, they simply take matters into their own hands. Men will get into fights with anyone who they think are a threat to them or are intimidating their masculinity. The male mind is set to believe that everything they do must be done with aggression for them to be successful and for other people to think they