Gender Conflicts: Why Do Men And Women Fight?

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Gender Conflicts
There is a common misconception about marriage and relationships believed by not only children, but many adults as well. This misconception was started by the utterance of three words; three words that can single handily wreck a marriage. Those words being, “happily ever after.” Why are these words so detrimental? Why do men and women fight? These queries are all resolved by explaining the differences in brain wiring, interests, and communication styles all lead to the wrecker of marriages; gender conflicts.
In order to comprehend why men and women fight, how men and women operate must first be apprehended, starting with one of the most vital organs in the body; the brain. According to a study of brain scans done by The University
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For one, females are born with slightly different hearing capabilities than men, a newborn female can process sounds better than her male counterpart (Legato, 60-61). Because of this, listening and understanding dialect is easier for women than for men (Legato, 63). Not only do women have different assets than men, but have different values and interests as well. Of course this is a general statement, as every person varies from the next, but is true for the overwhelming majority of women. Women value feelings, relationships, talking, and beauty (Gray,11) and seek care, understanding, respect, and validation, (Gray, 145) and are generally more emotional than men (Tingley, …show more content…
In general, men and women don’t strive to harm one another, they are often ignorant and don’t realize that what would work to say to a women or man, might not always work vice versa (Gray, 143). For instance, a common scenario would be a women blaming a man for ignoring her, after she rolled her eyes at him, when really he simply just didn’t understand her non-verbal cues (Legato, 67). This is not the man’s fault, since this is how his brain is wired, however, women who use verbal cues or gestures often when conversing, will often not realize this and blame the man himself. Another example would be a women offering help to a man, women often don’t realize, is that men value power and success and when women try to be helpful and offer advice, a man will often get the impression that he is no good, and will become humiliated (Gray, 14). This will often lead to anger, which will lead to fights. Back to the idea of men needing help, when men do in fact need help, and ask for it, rather then help find a solution to the problem women will often sympathize with the man like she would do with her girlfriends (Tannen, 51). Men find this degrading, as if the women is putting down their problems as no big deal. Women often don’t understand this concept, that while they like giving and receiving advice, men feel as if they aren’t good enough, and need to be

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