Heterosexual Communication Patterns

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Same-Sex and Heterosexual

Relationships in Same-sex and Heterosexual

“Straight couples may have a lot to learn from gay and lesbian relationships,” Gottman (1)

There have been many findings through many research comparing ‘same-sex’ relationships patterns in communication vs. heterosexual. Many of these research like, Gottman and Green, have demonstrated the differences that both topics have in communication in a relationship. Gottman said it, research suggest that same-sex relationships have a higher communication than straight couples in relationships.

Patterns: Many of these patterns in communication demonstrate that the reason that ‘same-sex’ relationship are better is simply because of the “same gender”. “According to the 225
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On the other hand, because your equal, you can’t get away with pulling power techniques on each other because it will only backfire on you when your dealing with equal.” (3)

Genders are given a package of duties they are to do while maturing which can impact the heterosexual relationships. This is where communication will fail because the majority of male and female know what to do in a relationship without even communicating. Many of these stigmas are the reasons why ‘same sex’ have better communication skills. I could mention however, that many of these norms are fading away. Females and males are changing roles and is completely acceptable.

“Green’s research suggests some lessons straight men could learn from gay men. Heterosexual men need to “stand up to the pressures of conformity from their male peers and relatives” by becoming more flexible in their behavior and taking on tasks and roles more traditionally assigned to women.”
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Green mentions that they have less anger and aggression during a discussion and instead, they use a lot of humor. They simply have basic equality in their discussion, which ties back to the whole gender roles.

Compare: Both research by Gottman and Green did have many similarities and some differences. I find that both of these researchers had similar results on how ‘same-sex’ solved their conflict. Gottman learned from his results that gay/lesbians in relationships that they are “more upbeat” while facing conflict. Like I mentioned before, he says that they are more affection and do use humor when disagreeing. In Green’s research, he learned in his research that same-sex couples will use less anger and aggression, as I mentioned before. They are more equal and also use humor while discussion.

“Green believes that heterosexual partners could learn by observing how their lesbian and gay coupled friends share housework, childcare, use softer communication of feelings in conflict situations, and more equally nurturing behaviors toward one another and their children.”

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