Analysis Of Stephen May's Article 'Great Expectations'

In Stephen Mays article “Great Sexpectations: What About Gender Roles in Same Sex Relationships” he argues that there does not have to be a male and female role for a relationship to work. As the reader goes through his article they can see Mays state “As clear as you would think it is to see, I’ll spell it out for you: neither of them are the girl. They’re both boys.” While most people look at a same sex relationship and ask the question “who is the boy and who is the girl?”, Mays states that neither, the couple are either both female or both male. Though traditional roles may still apply in same-sex relationships; they just may not be as strong.
Some may argue that the person in the relationship that cooks, takes care of kids, and cleans …show more content…
In the article, “Who’s the man? Why the Gender Divide in Same-Sex Relationships is Face” by Arwa Mahdawi, it states “Research suggests that gay couples have more equal relationships and share more childcare responsibilities.” This is mostly do to the fact that in a different sex relationship the female is traditionally supposed to take care of the children. In a same sex relationship there is not that traditional woman to take on that role so both partners split the role equally. This also applies to chores such as dishes, fixing cars, and …show more content…
If both people in the relationship want to be seen and manly or womanly it may cause conflict. Say there are two men in a relationship and they both want to be seen as “men” to not seem weak to society, it could cause trouble at home. This is because if they are both focused on bringing in the money for the house and protecting the house some important things will get left behind. There would be no one to cook, clean, or take care of the children. This in turn would lead to someone having to give up what they believe they should be doing. Which, in turn, would make that person unhappy. This is true for two females in a relationship, also. If they both want to be seen as the woman of the relationship, they would focus on the kids, cleaning, and cooking. Although, this may be great for the kids feeling loved it will make the home lack in certain areas. Money may not be brought into the house or, at least, not enough of it anyway. This could lead to losing the house, kids, late payments, or all the above. In both situations gender roles are required but, they do not have to be enforced as much as would needed in a heterosexual relationship.
If there is a homosexual couple do not feel the need to ask who is the male and who is the female in the relationship. The truth is there is not a male and female. They are either both male or both female. Their roles in their relationship is to work together to make a functioning