Deshpande Theme Of Marriage

with a very sensitive mind. It is not that, always women suffer, men’s sufferings are not discussed because a man cannot express them as he has a more prominent and dominant ego. Thus all men and women characters are imique in her novels because she never categorizes anyone as 'good’ or 'bad’. She tries to•view every human being with different points of view. There is a dichotomy between the thoughts of man and woman. Still, she tries to be liberal to all.
After reading the novels by Deshpande a question may arise, what is the purpose of marriage, if there are solmany problems in marital life? Deshpande has dealt with this question also. In her recent novel, In The Country of Deceit she herself has raised this question repeatedly. It is …show more content…
He cannot do whatever he wishes to do because many other relations exist simultaneously and he can’t ignore his responsibilities. What happens if Devayani continues her secret love-affair with Ashok, both of them being mature enough to take the decisions of their own lives? But, Devayani can't, because, she is bound to be loyal to her other relations. Deshpande tries to convey the fact that a man can be highly qualified, he may have higher degrees, but, he cannot ignore the cultural heritage which is rooted in his psyche. Devayani finds herself guilty for the epidemic disease of her nephew to whom she serves as a surrogate mother. Her traditionally Indian psyche unconsciouslyfinds herself guilty for the fact that being engaged in a relationship which society has made tabooed, she is committing sin for which an innocent child is being punished. Devayani could have continued the relationship with Ashok if she were nonchalant about her family and her heritage. They would never continue with the clandestine affair because in that case she would have been considered as a mistress or "the other woman. Besides, she could not depend upon a person who is preoccupied with his own responsibilities. He can ignore the duty of a devoted husband, but he is passionate about his daughter. He says: "I'm sorry, Divya, I’m sorry. I can’t lose my daughter, I can’t let her lose me.”Shashi Deshpande, The Country of Deceit, New Delhi: Penguin …show more content…
They are not any projection of her "heat-oppressed brain". That is why when we go through her novels, it seems that we are very familiar with all these problems which sound very trivial, but, can be complicated enough if they g are not treated carefully. Her characters seem very close to us because, a camouflage she presents our own lives with our own dreams and sorrows, our own aspirations and disappointments to ourselves. She is an Indian by birth and she presents the women in her novels, are Indian in essence. They may talk about Betty Friedan » and Virginia Woolf, but, at the core of their hearts they are the traditional Indian women who try to reconcile with their predicament not for their own selves, but, for the benefit of their family as well as their children. Simultaneously, they try to assert their 'selves’ even in the cruellest of situations. Deshpande is a liberal humanist who wants to put her feminist ideas not to keep the woman race distinct from the entire humanity, but, to provide the women their due respect and recognition for the betterment of humanity. At the end of the discussion, we may humbly put her words which the author herself quoted from Simone de Beauvoir as her concept of ”feminism": ". . . that fact that we are human, is much more important than our being men and women."Gangadharan,