Challenging Five Myths on Emotions First myth: Allowing for my emotions creates suffering.
It is just the other way round: trying to escape from emotions that feel uncomfortable to us is what creates suffering in the long run. It is impossible to suffer without judging our experience. If we feel anger, fear or sadness and judge these emotions as bad and unwanted, what we do is trying to cut ourselves off from the part of us that feels them. Every emotion is a messenger and numbing ourselves to the message it carries with it means to run away from life instead of dealing with it. We create disharmony within ourselves. And the less we are willing to deal with and experience what we feel, the greater our state of disharmony and suffering will …show more content…
We tend to make what we feel part of our identity and often we take it as a reason to beat ourselves up, as we would rather be a happy person instead of a sad one. But your emotions do not define you. They are simply part of your experience. All they´re there for is to make you aware of parts of yourself that want nothing more than to be seen, loved and accepted for what they are. When you can feel your anger without assigning a meaning to it, such as being right with respect to someone else, you will feel immense relief. Your anger is given space to flow and dissolve as naturally as rivers wash into the …show more content…
Other people never are the reason for what you feel and experience. As much as your true source for love and appreciation cannot be found in other people but only in yourself, other people do not have the power to make you suffer as only you have power over your state of being. However, you can give this power away to others. As an example, if what someone says to you makes you feel sad and hurt, your choice is to either make it about the other person and blame her for how she makes you feel; or to simply open up to what you feel and what your emotions are telling you. Every painful emotion comes from parts of you that feel neglected and unwanted. By blaming other people for your pain, you forfeit your personal power and create new sources of suffering. By opening up to it and welcoming it with love, you are allowing it the space to melt down and
It is just the other way round: trying to escape from emotions that feel uncomfortable to us is what creates suffering in the long run. It is impossible to suffer without judging our experience. If we feel anger, fear or sadness and judge these emotions as bad and unwanted, what we do is trying to cut ourselves off from the part of us that feels them. Every emotion is a messenger and numbing ourselves to the message it carries with it means to run away from life instead of dealing with it. We create disharmony within ourselves. And the less we are willing to deal with and experience what we feel, the greater our state of disharmony and suffering will …show more content…
We tend to make what we feel part of our identity and often we take it as a reason to beat ourselves up, as we would rather be a happy person instead of a sad one. But your emotions do not define you. They are simply part of your experience. All they´re there for is to make you aware of parts of yourself that want nothing more than to be seen, loved and accepted for what they are. When you can feel your anger without assigning a meaning to it, such as being right with respect to someone else, you will feel immense relief. Your anger is given space to flow and dissolve as naturally as rivers wash into the …show more content…
Other people never are the reason for what you feel and experience. As much as your true source for love and appreciation cannot be found in other people but only in yourself, other people do not have the power to make you suffer as only you have power over your state of being. However, you can give this power away to others. As an example, if what someone says to you makes you feel sad and hurt, your choice is to either make it about the other person and blame her for how she makes you feel; or to simply open up to what you feel and what your emotions are telling you. Every painful emotion comes from parts of you that feel neglected and unwanted. By blaming other people for your pain, you forfeit your personal power and create new sources of suffering. By opening up to it and welcoming it with love, you are allowing it the space to melt down and